Now this is a weird scenario:
I dated this guy named Dave for about a year beginning in the Fall of 2008. I was 22 at the height of or relationship and he was 23. We grew close and I fell deeply in love with him. I thought he felt the same cause he would always tell me and his actions proved it. It was during a difficult time in my life and I decided I needed a change of scenery. I decided to try and move from DC to ATL for a while to continue my education and my boyfriend Dave decided he would do the move as well. We made plans and everything was going smooth until the coward disappeared on me 2 weeks before the move!! I couldn’t back out cause a lot of money had already been involved. I ended up in ATL by myself for a year heartbroken and alone!! He didn’t call once or try to explain. I was left to myself. Anyway, I grew and matured over that year and was able to find my way back home. I had gotten close with some of his friends that were there for me during that time and ended up working with some of them when I returned. Then I find out that Dave has a new girlfriend ( who use to be a porn star) and now has another child with her!! This did it for me and I officially moved on. Sincerly..I did not have a rebound stage. I took that time out for me. Then a mutual friend introduced me to this guy named Jason. He had just moved back from being in college for 5 years and we really hit it off and started to date. He went to high school with Dave and considered themselves friends but were not that close. When I was with Dave I never even knew of Jason. So then, through gossip and someone running their mouth about my business, my ex found out that I was dating Jason and got SUPER MAD!!! He called me a homie hopper and every other name under the sun!!! After all that he put me through he had the audacity to question me about my love life that no longer involves him!! And to make matters worse….Jason use to date Dave’s current girlfriend (the ex porn star!!! LOL) before Dave did! Doesn’t that make Dave a hyporcrite??? Why would he care now when he has a new girl, a new family, and he abandoned me in the first place? Is it because I have moved on?? Does he still care or is he just immature? I am now 23 and Dave is 24. What should I do about it if there is anything I can do? I really like Jason a lot and neither of us feel ashamed of our relationship. I need help with this one….
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I am a Scorpio and I come off online as clingy, needy, and desperate a lot of times. I always have to be in a relationship all the time in my life otherwise I become too mentally unstable.
There is a girl I repeatedly break up with who I really don’t want to be with. I think I am using her. I will break up with her and try to get in a long-term relationship with a girl I really adore online when that fails. We meet in person don’t connect or things go south after a few dates I will fly back to this other girl and she always takes me back. She will forgive me no matter what I do. I have broken up with her 4 times in the last 5 years and tried going on dates with other women during that time. When I have limited success and I don’t get what I want I always go back to her. I am not sure if I love her but she gives me the emotional needs and sex I need whenever I want it. I need emotional security and I thrive on sex. I can emotionally manipulate her to get all the sex I want from her. I will threaten to leave her again, act cold and mean and be verbally abusive to her. I will do whatever it takes to get all the sex I want from her. Her father abused her as a kid and she has had past boyfriends who have beaten her up. She is easy to break down emotionally and I feel secure that she will never leave me. I can control her and I love that. I eliminated all possibilities for her to cheat on me with men. I manipulated her to sell her car, cut out all contact with any male in her life whatsoever, she gave me all her email account information, I have access to all her banking information and credit cards. She will give me access to anything I ask, she trusts people too easily. Whenever she doesn’t do what I want her to do I will describe in graphic detail how I am going to watch a movie like "Hellraiser" and wish that she gets tortured to death like those women because that is what happens to trash. She is religious and I will use her faith as a weapon to control her. Telling her she will be thrown in the lake of fire and has no chance to go to heaven if she doesn’t do what I want her to do. She also is a little bit "slow" and was just a C student in high school. I use her lack of intelligence to my advantage she is gullible and too easily manipulated. When we break up I can date and talk to who I want online but if she even asks me permission to even glance at another man I will throw a turbulent rage at her and call her every name in the book to give her a guilt trip so she even won’t consider it. I completely control her life and I love it. I absolutely have to have emotional support and sex in my life all the time or I go nuts and can’t function.I can’t stand not being in a relationship I emotionally break down and go nuts. I have to always be in a relationship even if I am not satisfied with the one I am with.
The weird thing of all this is I think I really do love her. I love her family, her friends, a lot about her. As cruel and bitter hatred show her it is equal to a very deep love I have for her no matter how hard that is for me to admit. I do take really good care of her and put her on pedestal when things go my way. She told me she was going to commit suicide once when I left her and I called the police on her and they gave her treatment, deep down inside I do care for her.
So anyone always go back to a relationship with someone you know will take you back? If so what is your sign?
Oh life is too funny to take seriously. I love monyself and everything good about me. We all have to love the sick dark side of our personalities. Reading the posts and this kind of humor is what makes my day. It is more fun to be hated then loved in this world. Just too funny !!! Thanks everyone for the input I really cracked up reading all the posts.
Oh and I even promised to marry her and on her wedding day I did a "no show" at her house. The minister and witnesses were there and I ditched town. She was upset but still took me back.
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we were together over 13 years since i was 17. we were married 11 of them. I come from a broken home my mother is married to an alcoholic that was abusive to her. My grandmother took me away from her when i was 10. but every time they would get into it. We would go get her and help her get away from him and then she would go back. This went on even until I was married with my own kids and own problems. Finally when i was 23 she moved in with us and i told her if she went back that I would never help her again because i couldn’t take it anymore. She went back less than 3 months later.
Well my relationship started at a time in my life that i was headed down the wrong path and at 17 i had my heart broken to many times falling for the wrong guys.
then me and my ex started dating and we were in separable. We married just a little over a year dating i got pregnant. Had my first son at 19. My ex always had a temper and would blow up even before we got married. he was really jealous. i couldn’t go do stuff with my friends unless he came.
He didn’t start drinking till after we got married. i was 7 months along.
We lived right down the road from his parents. So i got really close to them. Some verbal abuse and his drinking got worse over time he would push or just threaten me.
Time went on we had another son and it would get so bad that i would l leave and get away even if i had to sleep in my car. i debated on leaving for years. but he has a good paying job and anytime anything would happen i would go buy me something.
It wasn’t always bad we had a lot of good times too. I love him more than anything he was my world. His family was the family i never had.
But when things would happen no one ever knew cause i would pretend we were a perfect family because that’s all i ever wanted. then 3 years ago my dreams came true we found some land built us a new house.
but during the time of building our new house he had started hanging around a guy that is a drug head and theif.
He would lie to me and go pick the guy up without my knowledge and put himself insituations that were he could have been killed.
Of course we would fight and pushing and shoving got worse with the verbal and emotional abuse. I would catch him in lies over and over.
one time went swimming with this guy with my kids after dark in a creek. He would never answer the phone and come to find out he was skinny dipping with 2 girls. But i stuck in there was getting my big new house.
Time we on the lies the fighting the drinking got worse. Finally after not even living in the new house i gave up. I found out he was selling pills and just hanging out with losers that don’t work and were single. i just started to hate him. So 6 more months went by just getting worse. I was going crazy cause I loved him so much and was begging him to change. Pick me or his drug loser friends. So finally Christmas morning in 2007 i refused to go to his family because of the fighting morning. I told his mother that i couldn’t handle the drinking anymore. Two nights later we went out with friends for drinks and met another man.
well now it’s been 1 1/2 later. I’ve divorced him. but i keep going back in forth between my ex husband and ex boyfriend. I love them both in different ways, they have both now physically and mentally abused me. But my ex boyfriend has went to counseling and still talks to a pastor. My ex still drinks as always and even now has started cussing my kids. But I still Love him!!! i wish everything could work but i can’t take the lies and the verbal and physical abuse. i want to go back now! but not even 2 weeks ago he choked me till i almost past out!
he doesn’t spend much time with my kids but he is trying.
My ex boyfriends worships the ground i walk on!! He loves my kids and they love him. What should i do go back to there dad? Get back with my ex boyfriend. Just confused please HELP!!!
Plus all my so called friends love my ex husband since they know as the great couple lol but they go back and tell him what i’m doing. so i have no friends to turn to… thanks
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(Long Story)So im 16 and im missing my ex and im a guy. So when i was 12year old i got with this girl name aly, and we were with each other for about 8months every thing was going really good, but people keep telling stuff like or shes looks like your sister or she’s to tall, so on so on. So i didn’t know what to do so i told my sister to call her and tell her its over. Kinda stupud huh? Well anyways after a few years have past when i was about 13, 14 i try getting back with her but i was still the same shy me and i haven’t hit men hood yet. So we dated a little bit but it didn’t work out. So then i was talking to her today and we were talking about the past and laughting and how much fun it was and the stupid stuff we did. So then i told her do you still have that picture of you and me from along time ago and she said yea its in my closet some where i need to find it, cause i wanted to have one cause she has alot, so then i told can i come by and pick it up when i get out of house arrest. Yes im on house arrest -_-. But the main idea in this little story was that when i was little i couldn’t speak for my self and i was really shy, but after i hit 15 i started thinking for my self and what i should do. So then when i was talking to her we had a 1hr conversation on IM. I asked her when i broke up with you did you cry? and she said yea i did and i had insoma, and i told for the fouth time in my life i said sorry and she said its ok. But anyways im gonna see her in about 2weeks so im gonna try to talk to her one on one and hangout with her, and i do miss her and i would not break her heart again cause i have a mind of my own now and i changed. Like really change. So what do you think would happen?
I already Hit man hood -_-
Can you give a good answer please it would really help
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I have been divorced for several years now. I’ve been through those fazes people go through when burned and healing. I’ve been to therapy, pastorial councilling, Divorce care special weekly group for folks who survived divorce. I have been known as the guy who hates woman but I honestly don’t hate them I am "Just VERY cautious!" Some people think I am a forever bachelore! But honestly I am lonely and having someone seems appealing yet MAN do I remember the Pain and suffering, the cost of a relationship here in the good old US of A. I have prayed, received mentorship, read books after book, been to seminars on love, marriage, and even revisited the teenage issues of saving sex for marriage and becomming a secondary virgin and making a commitment to God to save myself for the one He has for me. yet, I even get close and well, I sort of shut down. I see or feel the same mannerisms as my ex exhibted and I shut down! It is no mas! So what would you do in my shoes?
Some people call me "gun shy". But I sat and thought about THE happiest time in my life EVER with a woman and it was not here in the USA. It was while I was in the US Army stationed in Panama. I think about her and my heart melts again but that was so many years ago. Then I came back to the USA and its been nothing but pain and suffering ever since. I am sooo INTO Latin woman now it aint funny. All I can say is I got spoiled and I could kick myself because I did not marry the woman I deeply and truly loved. Now all I want to do is marry someone spanish, Latin, Panamanian, Columbian, Costa Rican Or someone Spanish from that deeply rooted background in FAMILY. They put our idea of family to shame for sure! Not before or since then have I experienced how a woman could love a man and her family like I did in Panama. All I know is I remember what made me very happy.
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