My wife and I have been married 4 years and she quit her job a year ago because we wanted to start a family and she got pregnant fairly quick. She did all of the housework and laundry in our home untill she got 5 months pregnant and then she just stoped cooking,cleaning, and would only wash my work clothing. I also noticed she started spending a lot of my money on stuff for the baby without telling me, so I took away her bank card and started giving her a 0 allowance which at the time seemed like a smart idea even though she resisted at first she accepted it. By 6 months our house had not improved so I asked my wife what was wrong and she said she was tired and her feet were swollen so I told her I was going to hire a maid twice a month and have it come out of her allowance. I ended up hiring a maid at that left her with only 0 and we both argued for a week about it and then on a friday I got home and my wife had packed her stuff and left. She left me a note telling me how much I hurt her by making what was supposed to be the most amazing time of her life into something she wanted to forget she also reminded me of how she took care of me after my accident and never took my bank card away or put me on an allowance. When I read that it really hit home and I drove to Georgia to bring her back home and she didn’t want to come back with me and then I really knew I messed up big time. My wife and I are still legally married but she said she wants a divorce once our son is born and that she doesn’t want to see me till after she has the baby, so I won’t even get to see my first son be born. I feel awful about how I treated her is ther any way I could try to save our marriage or Am I just hurting her by trying to save it? I already send her flowers daily and call her daily but her mom says she doesn’t want to speak with me. Her mom did tell me she cries a lot and says that she thinks my wife still loves me. What else can I do?
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I am 18 and so is my girlfriend. I’ll be a freshman this year at a college in town and she is a senior in high school. We have been dating for almost 3 years and towards the end of the summer our intense fights were starting to get the best of us so she decides maybe we should take a break. I didn’t see the good in this choice but there wasn’t anything I could really do about it. The reason for her needing space is because our relationship has been stressful lately and she is always working or doing things with school and just didn’t need our stress. I know people think there is another guy or something but I can assure you there isn’t. She says she loves me very much and knows we will get back together and it will be ok. We have been apart for a little over a month now and within the past couple weeks we have started talking a lot again. We have even hung out a couple times just as friends, and its been great because I feel like we have been getting to know each other all over again. Well, a couple days ago we hung out and I was about ready to leave and she hugs me and then she kisses me. Of course I don’t really stop it because its not what I truly want. I end up staying for another hour in her room. We kiss heavily and all those kinds of things, and she starts crying and tells me how much she misses me and needs me and loves me. It felt as though we were dating and everything was just perfect. But she still says..we cant get back together yet, I love you so much but we cant..Im sorry for making things even harder. You know I understand her reasons for being alone and I can accept that, but how things have gone lately I feel as though she is just being selfish now. Its not fair to me to be on a roller coaster with my feelings and just having to wait around. Im not really implying the she is out having the time of her life and im crying at home, its not like that at all. I just dint get how we love each other but cant date yet? I truly believe her and everything, but I have been in this situation before and I fear the same thing will happen to me again. Based off what I have said what do you feel is going on?
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