to make the looooooong story short

My mom was petition by her husband like 13 yrs ago. she then petition me I was a little girl.( I had been to the US before anyway cuz I had an american visa) they got divorced after 2 yrs cuz he was a truck driver and was cheating and he contacted an STD and told her about so she wont get sick too. well, now immigration was thinking that their marriage was fake and the poor thing now has court MATER HEARING next week. She was told by the lawyers(the best in miami and most expensive) that everything will be ok cuz she has proof and witnesses and all kinds of stuff. the judge will either say approved or not and if he says no she can appeal or whatever or file again with her new husband. the thing is that since she petition me I’m afraid that if the judge says no, Ill have to go too.The lawyer says that if the judge approves the case we both get our green cards back, but if he doesnt and my mom doesnt do what she needs to do fast she could get deported. I mean since she petition me would that mean Ill get deported too? Im married to a citizen and the lawyer told me that only my mom would be affected cuz I was a minor and had a visa anyway along with the green card that in case of anything i could file with my hubby, and also my name is not in the court order neither is my green card number like my moms.

I’m so scared for her. she is such a good woman loved by everyone that works hard and loves this country since we lived all whole lives here. I on my part do not even speak the other language I left when I was 3 yrs old. My mom tell me that if she gets deported I wont cuz I did not do anything I could have a chance to fix my stuff up is this true? I mean thats what the lawyers say! I am a full-tim teacher at 21 yrs old, full-time student, full-time wife lol and I love this country with all my heart. Im married for and we just want answers. I want to trust the lawyers cuz I dont really wanna go back but is this true???? help me anyway


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What bothers me is he doesn’t tell me he loves me. He never was a mushy man, he is very very masculine and always has a shield up. But he would say it maybe a couple times a week.
Now a day I will tell him "I love you" and he either nods or says "outstanding". He does not hold hands, he does not touch or play. We do not have sex very much. I come on to him almost everyday but he says "to wait till later", but when he is ready it is 1am -5am, and I like to sleep from 11pm -6:30am. Most nights if I go to bed before him he won’t join me. He would rather sleep on the couch. he says our bed hurts his back. But he blames me that we "never" have sex. (never meaning 4-5 times a week).

But sometimes he does the sweetest things. He will cook these huge gormet meals for me when I get home from my jobs/school. He does this 4-5 times a week. When he gets drunk he tells me he loves me, and sometimes he would grab me into his arms and dance and sing Sinatra.

But for the most part he doesn’t even look at me.
He is in the Navy and when he comes home from a couple weeks out to sea he won’t even kiss me he will just say " What do you want for dinner"?
I don’t know if he loves me anymore and I don’t know how to make him love me again.
He told me to get a second job even though I am a full time student, so I did. He wants his house spotless, so I clean constantly. I don’t know what else to do to make him happy. When he is happy I am happy, and I have not been happy for a long time.

What do I do? Oh, and he doesn’t believe in going to a marriage therapist. He thinks psychology is mumbo-jumbo. Even when that is the field I am studying.
PLEASE HELP!


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