I ask because he has made NO further attempts to contact her; I gather she is on holiday (at home, and he is working) but as far as I know, he has NOT contacted her. Assume this is the truth.

So – was their meeting last week just coincidence?

History is:

In Feb this year I caught my husband cheating with a woman for a whole year and apparently he was on the verge of leaving me for her but we worked through it. He swore that was it with her. Although he said he had loved her. She sent me all his messages and texts and IMs and in these, he expressed his love for her, said he didn’t want to be with me, I was sexless and cold, but SHE was vibrant, sexy and made him feel loved and able to love again.

After I found out, he cut her off and was horrible to her. He also denied he "meant" what he said in the years’ worth of those messages. BUT –

He went back to her many many times over 6 months, after he promised me that he would cut her out of his life for good – most recently in August when he went to her work, asked the guard to call her down, she got into his van to hear him out ..

The next thing you know, my husband is arrested for ’sexual assault’ in September. He was finally released without charge 2 weeks ago, and that was that, but they have been warned to stay away from each other.

PRESENT DAY:

As some of you know, lately (last 2 weeks) he has watched her from his work van as she walks from her office to the station; he DOES genuinely have jobs in that street but he HAS watched her as opposed to hiding behind a newspaper as he sits in his van/looking away, etc.

This has happened 3 times in 3 weeks, and each time, he has stared, and she has walked on, not stopping.

THIS TIME, SHE STOPPED AND THEY TALKED.

I can’t believe it. If the sexual assault arrest has not made him hate her WHAT THE F*CK WILL???

This is what they talked about, which I know because his partner driver "felt I should know" – he was not there but was nearby -

Admitted to her that he HAD indeed been waiting for her to approach him all those times he was parked near her work, and asked why she had been "running past" him!
Apparently he "forgave" her for having him arrested.
He wished her a happy belated birthday.
He asked how her new house was going.
Oh this is good; he asked why he "could not find her" on Facebook.
He asked her ‘can I trust you now?’ (!!)
He said ‘will you let me wave at you if I drive past you?’
She told him another guy had got obsessed with her lately and he said "See I told you you were dangerous" – what does that mean?

Please can someone decipher the things he said to her,AND tell me why would he give her the time of day?

This was last Monday but even on Tuesday, apparently he passed her in his truck and beeped & waved at her!

I am concerned as to what he plans next.

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Okay well i’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost 8 months now, we lost our virginity to eachother and i REALLY love him like you have no idea how much i do. And he REALLY loves me. But recently, i moved 3 hours away from him cause of family issues and now i barely see him so i’m scared he might cheat on me but before i moved he gave me a ring and the ring meant i would always love him and never cheat on him, i never take off that ring and he said he will never ever cheat on me. I believed him. But then, ever since i moved, we kept arguing (jealousy problems, me and him are really jealous people), and he never really tells me what’s going on anymore so i always find out things from his friends or even people I DON’T KNOW! Which is aggravating. Then i found out a rumor that he madeout with this girl at the mall? I told him that rumor and said he never even went to the malll with her and he swore on his life, so i believed him. Then i month later i kept hearing people saying what he told you was a lie so i asked again and he said he DID went to the mall with her and his friends but never did anything and he SWORE on his life… i believed him again. Then i broke up with him cause i found out he lied to me alot of times but he begged me for one more chance so i gave him the chance. But a few days later he lied to me and said he did madeout with her which made me want to kill myself. He hurt me so much, especially that i had to wait that long to find out the truth which was 3 months later after that happened. So i broke up with him then he tried to kill himself cause he said it was on accident and he hated himself for doing that and ect. So i took him back… but i don’t know if that was the right thing to do… was it? Please give me your opinion. I really don’t wanna stay with the wrong guy.

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My ex boyfriend and i dated for 11 and 1/2 months and he didnt pressure me into anyhting. But i moved to new york and we attempted the long distance thing. Eventually he broke it off in December of last year because I was being too promiscuous. I keep trying to either make him jealous or get him back but nothing works. He said maybe it’ll work in the future but not now. And i kept pushing and pushing adn he finally just said,"Get over me." Now i dont know what to do. I tell myself ive moved on when in truth, im still totally in love with him and each guy im with cant hold a candle to him…I keep looking for replacements and i dont know what to do…
**I recently moved back into the same town that i lived in before i moved, so we see each other at footbal games and whatnot.

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No e-books
Kallie, You need to shut up this is a hard time for me. My whole world revolved around him and even if what you said is true you shouldn’t tell the truth to people as desperate as me!

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The average homeowner feels they can trust the professional electrician who wired their house to know what he’s doing. Most electricians have had formal training or years of experience in their field of expertise, and that’s good because you trust them with the safety of your home and the lives of your family.

But how much do they really know about electricity?

Some of the things they think they know are nothing more than circular logic or assumptions based on assumptions! This has led to some very wrong thinking and has to be corrected time and time again, yet they claim to have all the right answers on matters electrical.

For example, ask an electrician how they know how much voltage is in a circuit. You’ll be told about the magic little box called a voltmeter which can wondrously measure the invisible, odorless, weightless electrons and give the voltage. How do they calibrate this device to be so accurate? They run voltage through it and set it to match! Of course, you can clearly see the voltage they run through it would be known because it had been measured by a voltmeter, and on and on in a prime example of circular logic.

The truth is they don’t even care enough to change major mistakes when they find them. When they first started their arcane art, they guessed at which direction the electrons were moving and assigned the familiar positive and negative signs according to that – but they got it backwards! A century or two later, they decided they had it backwards but did not bother to change it except when working on things like designing computer chips. They’ll tell you “it’s good enough” or “it doesn’t matter” when it comes to your home, but since when has completely backwards from reality been good enough on something as deadly as electricity in your home? What if a gunsmith told you backwards doesn’t matter when shooting a gun?

Electronicists are often at a loss when confronted with evidence that doesn’t fit their beliefs. Light bulbs are not actually "light bulbs" but dark absorbers. When you turn them on, they suck the dark out of the room. You can prove this by holding your hand under a "light bulb". The dark will stack up under your hand where its path to the absorber is blocked by your hand. When they quit working and turn a dark color, it’s not because they burnt out, it’s because they’re full. I once explained this to an electrician and he was at a complete loss for anything to say. I could tell by the way his shoulders were convulsing as he walked away he was sobbing, and he avoided talking to me about electricity from then on. I didn’t bother to tell him that electrons don’t really exist (they have never been directly observed by anyone), but that electricity works with magic smoke. If you touch the wrong two wires together, the magic smoke leaks out and the circuit stops working.

By now it should be clear to the objective reader that electricians may think they know about electricity, but it’s really nothing more than the guesses they’ve been taught to believe as fact by the self interests that controls the electrical industry. In any of the “official” codebooks and research journals they refuse to publish anything from outside their secular clique so they keep control of all information on the subject, even going as far as convincing lawmakers to force their beliefs on the public. More and more communities even have laws requiring all electricians to be approved by the secular code and forced to follow the Electronicism dogma in their work!

If you would like more information on this subject, a copy of our 3 hour video Answers about Electricity, or to make donations, contact us at The Amish Institute for Scientific Research.
Slightly Dark Francis: I wrote that about 10 years ago, and it has been on Usenet, the old Yahoo message boards, and several other places throught the years. Yes, I am Old Man from Scene 24 (suspended account)
as well as Here Kitteh Kitteh.

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SUMMARY:

Gabriella Collins is crushed when the love of her life moves away; doesn’t tell her and most likely, killed her father. He was her savoir, and hero. She depended on him and no else. She didn’t expect to fall in love. After she opens herself up, and find out who she really is, her father is murdered and Lucas runs away…

Gabriella tries to move on with her life like nothing is wrong but in reality she is broken. She has nightmares and can’t seem to forget him but what can she do? Gabriella is different… her whole life she has known she was different than mere mortals or her kind. Gabriella has the power to wield the element, Fire. None of her kind has ever been able to find a Bender with the element of fire. Until, Gabriella. But she refuses to let herself be taken by the Conclave or RCJ, She’d die first.

Six years later, 17 year old Gabriella is without a mother or father and has definitely changed. The quiet, innocent girl is now a hard, emotionless teen, striving to survive. Her usually distant aunt, guardian, gets kidnapped.

Gabriella once again find herself with Lucas, her hate, her love, and he is committed to someone else.

Soon Gabriella will find out the truth of her past, and all the lies that have bound her so deep, her core aches.

Its bound to be explosive.

Gabriella’s life has always been a lie, but she doesn’t know. The one thing in her life that is real, is Lucas and her Love for him; but she refuses to love again.

They have both changed and she can’t stand Lucas. He is controlling, stubborn and disgustingly beautiful, all the while Gabriella is now ill-tempered, hates people taking care of her- which is exactly what Lucas is going- and won’t fall for Lucas again. She won’t put herself out there- never.

Lucas has always loved Gabriella. He loved her from the moment she came knocking on his home and asked if he wanted a friend. Since then he has always protected her- but now she is independent and definitely doesn’t want his help. She has changed dramatically and he knows she still feels the sting of betrayal. He wants to tell her he has never loved anyone but her, but he knows he’ll have to leave soon and there no point in getting her hopes up.

Lucas and Gabriella set off on a adventure, where they will both learn things beyond there comprehension. Gabriella is determined not to fall again- she watches before she falls, and Lucas won’t let himself be owned by temptation. But through this adventure they will both learn that love has a funny, and inconceivable way of working.

Fate will give them a second chance at love.

But, are they willing to accept it?

We’ll see. This a story about how Love works, for mortals or immortals.

Some of us Fall In Love, Others; Crash.
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I’m done the first 12 chap. (Each chap about 7-10) pgs. I NEED A TITLE. Any ideass??? Anythingg Please.

Here are my thoughts, or Ideass.

Midnight Awakening Dawn
The Art Of Forbidden Love
Once Loved, Twice Lied
Fallen (Flame/ Fire)
Night Hunting Fall
Lies and Immortal Love
The End of Immortal Love

ANY MORE IDEASS??? PLEASEE :] ASAP

( If anyone wants to read it, just msg me, I’ll e-mail. I’d love feedback :] )
By The Way, Gabriella ends up going to a boarding school called, NightCrest Academy (<- Lame but the best i can think of) and It also has A lot to do with christianty, I added the Fallen Angels in to the book, They are the orginal Vampires, but instead of Lucifer being a Fallen, The Archangels are, but God doesn’t ban them, he send them to earth, to guard Humans. ANYWAYS, other things i was thinking bout is this,

Even Angels Fall
Fallen Teardrops
Darkness Falling

:]

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This article shows you how to avoid divorce when your are experiencing relationship problems.

No one goes into their marriage wanting to fail. Many couples dont want divorce because they believe that it equals failure. New facts and figures now state that if divorce is not considered when problems arise in a marriage that couples can resolve their issues and have a stronger marriage.

If you are having problems and are considering divorce, make sure to try to find alternatives that promote fixing the problems via open and truthful communication or marriage counseling. This is preferable over the pain and effort involved in divorcing your spouse.

When others hear that you are having marriage trouble, many couples get unsolicited advice from friends and coworkers that they really dont want. Divorce to others can be seen as a quick fix when in truth it can simply add to your problems rather than fixing them. While you appreciate the support and advice offered by your friends, keep in mind that this is your marriage, not theirs.

By looking at statistics, 80 percent of surveyed couples who at one time considered divorce and subsequently decided not to go through with it claimed to be happily married years later. This can be explained by two possible outcomes. The first is that the couples who previously were considering divorce decided to deal with their problems directly. In doing so, it not only acknowledged their problems but it may have resulted in their finding effective solutions that saved their marriage.

The second is that when divorce was considered that it can change the entire dynamic of a relationship. For some couples this could be a positive thing or it could be detrimental to others. If a problem develops, those considering a divorce could see this as a way out without ever dealing with the issue directly. If these problems grow or the issues faced become more divisive, the option of divorce can be seen as an easy out and therefore become very appealing.

However, those who did not consider a divorce may find some success. They are forced to deal with their problems, and possibly find a constructive solution and common ground. Although this can be hard work and is not as easy as a divorce appears to be in fixing problems, working together and facing issues can be much more rewarding.

Marriage is a team of two players. When both players are actively working towards solutions to their problems and remove divorce as an option, resolutions can be found for their differences. This will strengthen their marriage as you will be working towards something better rather than looking for a way to cut your losses and run.

If you remove divorce as an option and resolve to work through your differences, you can make your marriage work.  It will give you the motivation to work to improve your relationship through understanding and communication. By listening to each other and finding ways to compromise that benefit the both of you; you can build a marriage that will last for years to come.

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Ok! I always felt in my heart that my husband was cheating on me…he was acting weird, he’s crazy busy all the time, he never made time for me, never calls me or text me. My husband is a Bounty Hunter and a Private Investigator therefore for me to follow him or hire someone to catch him was almost impossible. #1 because of the kind of job my husband has he is always on the phone! Every time the phone rings he goes downstairs and runs his mouth on the phone! My husband is always on the phone!
#2 My husband always keep his phone on him, at night when he is sleeping the phone is always near him, under his pillow I mean he never leave the phone out of his site!
He locks his phone! he wont give me his voice mail password! He wont give me his e-mail password! These are the reason why I had these guts feeling about my husband cheating on me! I am a open book I have no secrets with my husband and he was never so secretive when we got married. But why can’t I believe that my husband could ever sleep with another women! I just can’t believe he is capable of doing something like this.
I asked God please i’m going crazy if my husband is cheating on me please send me a sign I need to know!
My sister was driving her truck, I was on the passenger side and my husband in the back and I saw him texting someone and when i turned my head again I saw the picture of a beautiful girl on his phone!
I was like who is that? he said no one! he denied knowing who she was. Later on he confessed to me and said that he met the girl when he was working as a security person at a club! He gave her his business card and she texted him and he said he just love the attention. He said nothing happened between them and that was the 1st time and only time he ever texted a girl! Please you guys what should I do…gosh this man wont tell me the truth! Oh and the worst thing is when we were talking about the situation I asked him to see his phone and check his messages but he didn’t want me to touch his phone!
What should I do I want to save my marriage!

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we been broke up for 3 months i broke up with her because she was to clingy. i was stupid but i want her back. she dated my friend for four days and they broke up two days ago. this is a letter i wrote her.

dear angel( a nickname i gave her)
hey how you been? we’ll hopefully good.. but anways let me get to the point of why im writing you this letter. honestly i been thinking about you lately and its hard to get you off my
mind. i mean all the good times we had. from you being really shy, to us talking on the phone late at night, spending time at the movies, your house, at the park, or out shopping.
it really didnt matter what we did we always managed to have a good time together. the 9 months we were together were the best part of my life
and i dont care how long i pretended not to like you, but the truth is i never stopped thinking about you.
the reason i been ignoring you is beecause i know your family most likely doesnt like me and i understand.
i dont blame you if you dont even like me. but just know you will always have a special place in my heart no matter what.
i miss talking to you. hopefully we can be friends, but if not its ok. talk to you later hopefully.
p.s. keep this letter to yourself please. im 19 shes 18. i just turned 19

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In the Christian bible, it says it was stoning to death, and Jesus put an end to that in one sentence: "let he who is without sin cast the first stone"

But a Jewish book I read says if the woman admitted to adultery, she only need admit it and a divorce will be granted. If she didn’t admit it and the husband was suspicious, God’s name would be written on a cup and the cup would be immersed in water at the temple. The truth would be revealed whether God’s name on the cup stayed or vanished. A rabbi jokingly wrote that people said God would rather save a marriage than destroy it by revealing the truth.

I don’t know if death was a part of adultery or not and how it was applied.

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and u love everything about him he makes you laugh and he sooo fine but he is also sweet and careing and he took care of me when we were going out but he said he didnt want 2 go back out because of what my ex-best friend told him some things that was not true and he believed her over me when he came to ask me the truth and i told him he said that he couldnt do this because he cant trusy me, he haerd that i was heating on him and i was telling people lies about him and i didnt, i loved him and i still do, i want to go back out with him but he dont but he still loves me, how can that happen? i need all the help i can get so what should i do?

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My husband and I split a year ago on my terms. Being apart from him for the last year made me realize that I love him and want to be with him and that I miss him. He waited for me for awhile to come back home then decided to date one of my friends who is also my brothers ex whom she has a child with. HE broke up with her because he said she was using him for money. He is now dating someone else and I told him how I felt and that I think about him everyday and wish I could turn back time and change things. He told me he catches himself thinking about me to but other people are involved now. His new gf and her two kids live with him now. But he was talking to me on the phone and we talked about the fun things we use to do together and little things like that. It brought a smile to my face talking to him and I was happy as I use to be. He was talking to me for 3 days in a row and I called him one night and he was very short with me & hung up. I called him back the next day while he was at work and asked what the problem was. He told me that it is causing problems with his gf talking to me. I told him I am not trying to start problems. It sounded to me like he wanted to talk to me just as much as I wanted to talk to him. He will only talk to me when hes on work time and not when hes around her or at home. We have not even taken care of any divorce paper work or anything and to tell you the truth I don’t want to move on. I want him back with me and I am not sure if he would want that to but he now has people involved. I don’t know what to think. Any suggestions?
Ok! I am going to move forward now. I will no longer initiate contact with him until he contacts me to move forward with the divorce. Although, he has kept all my things from me. Before we were married he made me sign a pre-nuptual agreement stating that I will never get any part of his home. Which, I was ok with signing because I did not marry him for his home. But….that gave him no right to keep my car, all my furniture that my grandparents gave me, I even had a hard time getting my clothes from him. I had to leave with no where to go and with nothing. I had to go and get a new car and a place to live on little income. But, since he has moved on now with this new girlfriend, then why does he feel the need to keep all my things that belong to me?? I wonder if that bothers his new girlfriend that he kept all my things. But then again, maybe not as she was also going through a divorce when she met him. But no matter what I do still care about him and want him to be happy.♥
Oh yea…and she is not pregnant. She is 40 and has two teenage kids and has her tubes tied. Her kids are 17 & 19 whom all three live with him. He is 36 & I am 28, big difference and big change in life-style for him. He wanted to have babies and we had tried for 5 years but It never happened. I went to the dr. and they said that I was fine but he did not want to go get checked out.

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I know that I should be glad to get out of this relationship & someone who will love me with no strings attached, instead of trying to make me feel like I owe him for his participation in our relationship. And I am glad for that. But after 4.5 years, it’s hard to lose someone that’s always been there. He put me through a lot of BS. And I want to leave. I’m sure it’ll be over within the next month or so. But at this point, I don’t have any friends here. I have no one else to talk to, and while I resent him for rubbing it in my face, and for passive-aggressively trying to keep me isolated…the truth is I feel like I’ll have no one. Even though I’m completely financially/residentially independent, I feel like I won’t be able to make ends meet. But it’s weird, because if he broke with me, I’d be fine with it. I’d find a way to cope.

I feel like an empty shell of myself. How can I recover, and how can I build myself up so that this won’t be such a difficult decision to make?

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Does no contact when you want your boyfriend back work? He broke up with me last Saturday because I confessed a lie to him and he said that once he fixed himself up we could try again but I am starting to not believe that. We went no contact until I called him Tuesday to check on me and he never called back. I just told myself that it is over and I didn’t try to call or email again. I am accepting the break up and the possibility that we may never get back together again. Does he miss me? Am I doing the right thing by moving on? We talked at least 4 hours a day and were on the computer instant messaging all through the day while we worked. I can still see his status on face book and it still says in a relationship and his instant message program still shows our picture together. Does he just need time to regroup? Will he come back out of his man cave? Am I doing the right thing by preparing for the inevitable future without him?
People make mistakes and I made a huge one. I am not perfect and I came to him with the truth. He didn’t find out from anyone else or have an inclination that I lied to him. I wanted to be mature and fix the situation between us and if he can’t forgive me or doesn’t want to be with me through the tough parts and the thick and thin, then maybe he wasn’t the one for me. I should be able to come to my partner and tell my partner the good, bad and ugly about me and he has the choice of accepting me or not. The partner that accepts me for who I am with all of my flaws is the partner for me.

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Ok I met this guy when we i was 14 and he was 15 at that time. He gave me letters and even created a comic character based on how I looked way back in high school. When I went to college, he visited me in our house and we just hanged out together with our friends. On my 3rd year, I agreed to have a relationship with him but since I was his first, he did not have a clue on how to handle our relationship so i broke up with him after a month Dec 24 (was the date). After I graduated, I worked and I asked him to take me back and he did which lasted for 2 years. Last July he broke up with me without telling me the reason behind. A month after, he is already ina new relationship with a girl (whom her mother refer as someone like me). I ask him to tell me the truth but i do not think hes ready to talk. Now a friend of ours called me last month and he told me that hes bragging about his new gf, that he was he first to have sex with her and that he got revenge from what i have done before.
I know that Ive given a lot more in our relationship. Now my family is planning to migrate in the US next year and i know it to be the best way to move on but as of right now, I cant help myself from thinking about him. I dont want another bf just to get over him but i cant picture myself being with him anymore not even as friends. I am now 22 and he is 23. I am already working and he is still a student. I know he was so insecure about it but i just think it was unfair that he just dumped me without even fighting for what he had. Weve known each other for 8 years and he dumped me for a girl who is also a student. Logically, I know what to do…just move on..and think he is a loser for dumping me…but it is easier said than done. Can someone give me a more logical explanation and help me in moving on? And if it is healthy to see him as a friend next year because eventually our friend will come home and wanted to see us?

Im sorry if its long..this is just a gist.

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Does no contact when you want your boyfriend back work? He broke up with me last Saturday because I confessed a lie to him and he said that once he fixed himself up we could try again but I am starting to not believe that. We went no contact until I called him Tuesday to check on me and he never called back. I just told myself that it is over and I didn’t try to call or email again. I am accepting the break up and the possibility that we may never get back together again. Does he miss me? Am I doing the right thing by moving on? We talked at least 4 hours a day and were on the computer instant messaging all through the day while we worked. I can still see his status on face book and it still says in a relationship and his instant message program still shows our picture together. Does he just need time to regroup? Will he come back out of his man cave? Am I doing the right thing by preparing for the inevitable future without him?
People make mistakes and I made a huge one. I am not perfect and I came to him with the truth. He didn’t find out from anyone else or have an inclination that I lied to him. I wanted to be mature and fix the situation between us and if he can’t forgive me or doesn’t want to be with me through the tough parts and the thick and thin, then maybe he wasn’t the one for me. I should be able to come to my partner and tell my partner the good, bad and ugly about me and he has the choice of accepting me or not. The partner that accepts me for who I am with all of my flaws is the partner for me.

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So how come my ex-gf left me? and do you think I still have a chance?
To make a long story short…
When im smart, attractive, funny, easy going, charming, caring, nice and tell the truth (all the good qualities in a bf)
I went out of my way to please her, made her happy, listened to her.
We talked about anything and everything.
We rarely had our arguements and when we did it was hardly anything to do with us.
She told me that I was the only person that could make her happy, laugh and calm her down when she would get into her angry (kill mood).
She told her family that I made her happy and she told her grandma that she wanted my babys. Years ago she told her grandma that she didnt want babys.
She quit smoking weed and cigs at the same time to be good for me… even though I didnt say anything about wanting her to quit but she did it for me because thats the only thing I didnt like (This was her decision)

A few times in our relationship she told me… to stay where I am at, im too good for her drama and didnt want me apart of this … whenever someone would bring her drama from friends or family. She wanted to move state a while back and still wants too. I told her that I could
handle it and would deal with all the wankers in her life.

The last 2 weeks of our relationship went like this. She tells me that we need to go back to the way we use to be as in friends until I get down there, that we should be together, is hopeful for the future, is working out how were gonna live and told me that once I get setteled
in that we would move somewhere by state or internationally where our family lives. The last compliment she gave me… she was telling me how perfect I am. Couple days later hardcore drama comes into play and than a week later she tells me she dosent want this and breaks it off. She told me that I was too good for this, told me that I ment the world to her and thats why she said she had to do it. I asked her a couple days later about why she left me and she told me that I got annoying the last week to 10 days or so. I admit I had changed and acted differently the last week of our relationship because I found out that I may have cancer, I never told her this because at the time she was dealing with something and I thought it was best to wait until it was the right time to tell her. So I try and win her back for a few days, she puts me on ignore/block and than a week later she starts talking to me asking me how I am. I bought a book on how to get your ex back… magic of making up.. I really do think we should be together and im willing to try the rest of the year until her birthday comes around and probably buy her flowers.

I found out that shes not doing too good financially, she has lost power to her house and is unable to find a job. I think the real reason why she dosent want me is because once im down there she dosent know what to do with me because she thinks she cant take care of me.

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Fixing a broken relationship isn’t hopeless, but it will be a challenge.  How much of a challenge will depend on many things.

One of the first things that will factor into how you should go about fixing your relationship is why the relationship is in trouble in the first place.  Is your relationship broken because of infidelity?  If so, was it you or your partner that cheated?  This type of relationship can be fixed but it is the hardest thing to overcome and both partners have to be willing to work very hard to make things right.

With infidelity it would seem like the partner who cheated would have to do all the work, but that isn’t really the case.  The truth of the matter is that it will take just as much work for the person who was cheated on to try to overcome their fear of being hurt again, their mistrust of their partner, as well as their anger and desire for revenge.

If your relationship has broken down more gradually over time, this might be a little easier to mend.  Of course, it will still take time and work and you both will need to be 100% committed to working on it.  Many relationships in this category die like a plant in a garden, from lack of nurturing.  It’s not usually a big thing that ends it but rather a series of small, seemingly unimportant, things that will weaken the relationship to the point where it will break very easily.

This type of relationship will take an honest assessment of what each of you has done, or not done, to weaken the relationship.  Once you’ve both admitted the part you’ve played in the breakdown of the relationship, at least to yourself, it’s time to sit down with your partner and honestly discuss what went wrong, what you think needs to be done to make it right, as well as what you personally are willing do to fix the relationship.

This part of the process will be very difficult and will often lead to some horrendous fights.  Why? Because this is the part where you will have to listen to your partner tell you why they aren’t happy with you.  This won’t be easy for you to hear.  And the same goes for your partner when it’s your turn to talk.  Very often one partner won’t be able to deal with what they perceive as criticism when their partner is trying to explain why they aren’t happy.  Once that happens it will often end up in a screaming match and nothing will get accomplished.

This is the point where you, and your partner, will need to grow up. If neither one of you is able to calmly listen to your partner while they try to explain what has made them unhappy in the relationship you won’t have any chance at all of working things out.

Healing a broken relationship isn’t impossible, but it will take work.  If you or your partner aren’t able to be mature and able to face your faults and be willing to work on changing them then you will have a much harder time of fixing your relationship.

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Last year I started to become friends with this guy and we started talking and texting all the time. He’s a year younger than me and we don’t see each other much this semester besides in the hallway sometimes. This november he told me that he liked me me as a lot more than a friend but I apologized, told him I didn’t really see him in that way, and told him that I didn’t want a relationship at the time which was the truth. he was a little disappointed at the time but he thanked me for being honest and it wasn’t even awkward at all after that. After that it seemed like we started to get to know each other even more. We’d talk almost every night and we offered each other advice on everything. He complimented me all the time and he’d out of the blue say "you looked nice today" which i thought was sweet. he was the guy i could go to with anything and i knew he’d have my back, so naturally i started to like him back. i didn’t tell him right away because i didn’t want it to be awkward. at the start of this semester i didn’t talk to him besides texting a little bit because we didn’t have any of the same classes, so we talked less than usual. a few days after the first day of the semester i told him about my feelings, and that i should have realized what a great guy he was back in november. he replied "i kinda have a thing with somebody now." and i was kind of sad but i got over it. i asked him how the chemistry test was the next day and he said "it was ok." which was wierd because we usually had actually meaningful conversations. we didn’t talk the rest of the week and he randomly texted me the next week . we talked for hours that night but the next day when i texted him he seemed bored talking to me. but when he started the converstion we talked forever, and he was back to his funny and sweet self. He told me that it didn’t work out with the other girl but that he didn’t know if he still liked me or not. i said "well a no is better than an ‘idk’ if that’s what you’re thinking" and he said "it’s not a no. it’s an idk." so like three weeks passed and he was either nice and flirty or really awkward whenever i talked to him. i figured he would have made up his mind by then so i asked him if he had, but all he said was "not yet. sorry." so i said "being friends is ten times better than having it awkward between us, i promise i won’t take it to heart if you decide you don’t anymore" and all he said was "yea i know" and we haven’t talked since then. he waved in the hall once but didn’t even say anything to me.
i’m so confused! i miss my friend that i could tell everything to. i don’t want to rush him but i really wish i knew what the answer was, and i feel like it shouldn’t take a month for him to decide. i still don’t want to be annoying and keep texting him but i’m so stressed out about it and i wish i knew if it was worth it to wait for him to decide. what should i do? :/

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I have tried the chat link, telephone numbers found on the web. I cannot get a live person. The answers they give on the site will not get the thing working again. I requested my password to get in members area to no avail. Any suggetions? Sure we could jam there avenues of getting new customers and not purchase anything, discourage new customers by telling the truth, but I’d rather they stand behind the product. Has anyone been able to take advantage of the second year deal? Has anyone else found that they could contact the company fine until the trial period was over? The chat link just goes in circles. Also, does anyone know how to get the thing up after a reformat. MJ suggested (in FAQs) a reformat and download, that did not work. You get what you pay for is to be expected. So I tolerated sometimes on sometimes off, crossing with my other voip etc… But they advertise in a way that makes you believe it will work for at least 1 year. Anyone else find that not to be so?
Ok. After searching the net forever I finally found 2 links that fixed the problem of the thing not "booting up." No help from MJ in that area. However, now when the softphone comes up it says my MJ is already activated and asks for my email or phone # and password. When I request password info from MJ website, I’m told info is sent to my email addy. Over and over again. Days now and still no response. So I must say, the device itself is still usable. The customer service is really the problem for me. They have a refer a friend button on there site. Did you use that C.S ?
By the way thanks Roger for trying to help me solve my problem. I did try makinga MJ logon account, but that was b4 the links helped me get it working. Seems if I was sent my password info (I’ve never had to login at MJ) I’d be OK. I actually used it as a second phone for the kids. I use Vonage for myself.

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was cheating on you 5 years before during separation, then shes moves back in, 3 months of counseling, she moves out again…says she will get into counseling for 9 months and doesn’t, pushes for a divorce but kept up the relationship for with me for 2 years after the divorce (I know it sounds crazy) all during while I was trying to reconcile, us being together with our son the whole time in two different homes, leading me to think that there was a possibility of reconciling, then cuts it all off abruptlty swearing there is no one else…then I find out the whole time she was with me she was seeing another guy and now she is marrying him this summer…and trying to move my son 2 hours away from me…also finding out that a dear friend of 20 years knew about it the other guy and never said anything to me during the affair…how am I supposed to be supportive of my son – getting to know this guy – he doesn’t like him and he was instrumental in tearing our family apart? all this truth…
comes out now…I end up paying attorneys after she tried for custody twice last year…hiding the guy…after the second attempt he comes out of the woodwork..and in the last few weeks I find out she was covertly being with this guy on a regular basis claiming confusion, and we can get remarried, annouces it publicly one year after the divorce…knowing how I felt about her and family, knowing she had no intention and I kept her alive going through almost K…stopping her from gettinf evicted…not knowing she was seeing this guy at the same time…helping her…and then she lieds in court to try to take my son away from me becasue she knew the marriage was coming down the pipe…how does one NOT get angry…how does one keep cool about all of this…fgor the best interest of my son whom I love very much and care for and now he is being thrown into this den of liars and home wreckers…low morals…and this new guy has alot of money…on top…she abducted our son 6 years ago.
Being mental as it was stated was an attempt to keep our family together with a woman who experienced 911 personally and went off the deep end…missed her home country and her family and ran with our son…I always believed that this affected her very deeply…but then I find out I was wrong and 911 had nothing to do with the abduction…she lept me believing alot of things that I had no idea was going on…I was trying to get her help…so does one just give up on a family in shreads or try to find a way to keep it togehter…and if so…how long does it take to put a family back into balance (Just a Thought)
For over two years on many weekends she would drop my son off with me gladly to take care of him and then go off to "be with our friend" and all along meeting up with this other guy…then would come stay with me for 3 or 4 days…then create a fight…two days later…back to me..me at her place…her at my place…all three of us together…that was my focus…my therapist told me "she is zig zagging…trying to find her way back to you…she will sned you through heL& but you will have to take what ever she throws at you if you really want to win her back…ALL along…her knowing she was never coming back but using me to stay alive.
and now she is taking my son to all the things that we used to go…all the fun spots we all visitied…restaurants, game plexes…movie theatres…parks…and he lives 2 hours away…staying over at her place duruing the weekends while my son is there…my son cant stand the guy…so he says repeatedly…but now every week for 3 months she hits me with something new about my son…accusing me of alienating him from her and her future husband…and my son says I don’t say anything bad about her or him…I have asked to meet him…she denied ot for weeks…then agreed…the day before the meeting…she calls it off…I want to meet his guy…my son wants to live with me…he doesn’t want to move away from me or his friends…she doesn’t have to move…nothing about a job…so he should have to cimmute if he cares for my son not taking him away from me…I live 5 minutes away from him and we spoend alot of time together…I am in the 5% category who sees their kids alot…why must she do

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my ex-boyfriend and i call it off today..yep Valentines day . We both decided to break up because he was under stress at home and school and i understood where he was coming from and i made it easier on him to just agree to break up. We were both each others first boyfriend and girlfriend and freshmen in high school. I really did love him but today he confessed that the only reason that he said i love you was because it was in the moment and he said the only people he would ever love is his family and i didnt really take it personally and i understood as well. he also said that we [the relationship] were going to end someday. He got to a point we he talked about home and how he said he was an a**hole to his family and how his mom think he hates her and i was just there trying to make him feel better. Him and his dad wants to move to Wisconsin where his dad side of the family is and i hate that and he told me if he was then he was going to miss me he also wants to go to the Navy when we graduate which i also hate to. Before we started to talk about this he came over today and we just hang out and i guess he just felt like it was wrong leading me on and he told me and that just made me have more respect for him. I am going to miss him and thats what makes me sad and want to cry. Im going to miss texting him, waiting for him after school and hanging out whatever we can and the memories we had. Im not mad at him for breaking up with me on Valentines Day and no matter what i will always love him and will have a special place in my heart for him. We dont have any classes and when we were dating we didnt see each other in the halls unless you wait for a while. So i guess thats good and he told me before we left that can we be friends and not ignore each other in the halls. i said yes and we hugged goodbye. Our relationship started with a hug and ended in a hug. I know he feels bad but i said dont worry about me im okay but the truth is that i was crying a river inside. Im not going to date anymore because i dont feel that there anyone in hs for me. the reason besides him being stressed was that he wasnt ready i guess..he said he wanted to wait because we did move fast and got into some what in a physical relationship. i deleted all the messages from him except his number. i do believe everything happens for a reason and i dont regret dating him or the things we have done. in 10 days we would’ve been dating for 4 months. Again i did love him very much and i guess i will always love him and if he doesnt move to Wisconsin then we still have 3 years old high school left.. and maybe down the road whatever life takes us i hope we can try again. Can anyone else help me get over him or any adivce?
Thanks

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I met this guy when i was 24 and am now 30yrs, we keep on breaking and making up, i love him so much but he keeps breaking up with me for other women and then when he breaks up with them he comes back to me, wat could the reason, does he come back to be comforted, does he realy love me because right he seeing this other woman who knows that iam the g/friend and she says she is the fiance. i do not want lose him, how do i get him back forever and get married to him. He told me he wanted to marry me after i found out about the other woman i desided to give time but that other woman has capitalised on that, wat should i do ? Because the other girl is now always at his place. I hav tried to ask him he doesnt say anything and his close friends who are also my friends denied the issue of him marrying her saying they are just dating but the girl says he is marrying her, wat could be the truth. Plz help

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My husband and I have separated due to a mental condition that he has and I cannot live with and remain a Christian. Now that may sound contradictory to you, but it is the truth. There is no real relationship anymore, but I do still love him deeply and the pain is terrible. I try to keep busy, but I have so much alone time it is constantly on my mind. Would appreciate any answers from anyone who has been through this type of experience before. Thank You.

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Today’s women can find it challenging sometimes to keep their marriages intact and happy. Many women want an answer to one specific question, “why do men leave women?” and what can they do to make sure it doesn’t happen to them.

The truth of the matter is that our society has made it very difficult for men and women to find long term loving relationships.  Why? Because the rules our society has adopted are based on inaccurate information.

One of the most obvious misconception that is pervasive throughout our society is the idea that men only want sex and/or have a much higher sex drive than women.  The truth is that men and women have similar sex drives but men have been encouraged, by society, to fulfill their needs while women have been discouraged from having sex until they are married.

This leads to many misunderstandings between men and women and how they approach their relationships.  It might mean a man will be more tempted to cheat on his wife because after all, it’s in his nature.  And it could mean that a women uses sex with the hopes of keeping her husband in love with her so he will stay in the marriage.

If we really got to the bottom of things though we would understand that men and women want basically the same things in a relationship.  Both want to feel loved, respected, and desired by their partners.  When you break it down like that it doesn’t really seem all that hard, does it?

If you want to keep your marriage strong try to meet your husbands needs…all of them, not just sexually. A word of caution here though.  Because of the way our society has told us to behave women have the tendency to think that they have to meet their husbands needs even if that means ignoring their own.  No! All that will do is make you resentful and bitter and that won’t keep a marriage intact.

While it’s important to try to meet your husbands needs it can’t be done to the detriment of your own.  Don’t put your wants and needs on hold to satisfy your husband, you’ll be unhappy, he’ll be unhappy (and bored) and the marriage won’t last.  For a marriage to thrive both parties need to be happy, healthy, stable, and have their needs being met on a regular basis.

So for any women who wants to know why men leave their wives it’s usually because his needs aren’t being met, and I don’t just mean his sexual needs.  I mean on some level he doesn’t feel like you love, desire, or respect him and he will try to find someone who will.

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