If you are asking yourself the question is my marriage in trouble then it could appear that the answer is yes but this doesn’t mean that it is. It might not be in grave danger of heading to the divorce courts but you are obviously not happy in the relationship if you are thinking this way. This maybe because there are issues between yourself and your partner or it may just be your perception of how things are. You could be feeling unfulfilled and lonely.
Whatever the reason for your feelings you need to get to the bottom of them or your marriage will be affected. It is not possible to have a happy relationship when one or both partners are feeling isolated, unloved or confused. It is not your partner’s responsibility to solve your problems, emotional or otherwise for you, but it does help when they are supportive and understanding.
You may be feeling down because your diet is lacking in certain vitamins and minerals. For example, women of childbearing age need plenty of Vitamin B in their diets as otherwise their hormones can cause them problems. They can suffer from restless sleeping as well as mood swings and depression. Often you don’t get sufficient vitamin B from natural resources so you may need a course of vitamin tablets to get you back on an even keel. Speak to your doctor if you are finding it difficult to sleep, are tired all the time or having difficulty shedding excess weight. You may have an underlying medical condition such as a thyroid problem and so need medical treatment. Men can be affected too.
Your worries may highlight a problem in your relationship. Have you tried talking to your partner about your feelings? It is not the easiest thing to do but once you take the first step you may find that you start to feel better. Communication is not a skill we learn in school or college. It is one of those things that people just assume we learn as we are growing up. Some people are natural communicators but most of us struggle to put our feelings into words particularly when talking to the person who means more to us than anyone else.
So don’t sit and wallow in your feelings. Talk to your partner today. Find some quiet time together and tell them how you are feeling and ask them how they feel about things and take it from there. You may find a little bit of good communication and some time together will help to resolve your worries and you will no longer be asking is my marriage in trouble.
Why is it difficult to get out of a broken relationship and what do one do when you are in love with the unloved?
You love someone and you want her badly but,you discovered she is in love with another person entirely.You find it hard to get out of it and yet, is like she is gone for good and you can’t even start another relationship because one thinks he can’t love again.
What would one do in such situation? I mean you can’t bring yourself to start another relationship because, you feels there is no love again.
How do one work on himself to love again because love is the happiness to every man’s heart.She left after marriage.
My nephews 20 year old father committed suicide just 5 hours ago. He felt so alone and hopeless that he hung himself in his aunts basement. Now i didn’t hate him but because of some words we had had between us i had said and done some mean things to him since than, such as making him sit outside to visit his son because i was angry with him and didn’t want him in my house, or making him feel unwelcome when i did let him stay with me because he had no place else to stay. But i did still care about him i was just angry and this was my petty way of showing it i guess.This was awhile back and me and him haven’t even spoken since last christmas where we were very civil to each other because i was over being angry by than. However now the guilt is overriding me i have cried so much my face is raw because he has had such a hard life he really did as a child he was abused, molested, bounced through foster home to foster home. And as an adult he has struggled with drugs, trouble, and mental illness, i just keep seeing him and imagining how alone he must have felt, and i feel i am one of the reasons he felt so unwanted and unloved in this world that he didn’t want to live in it anymore. I know that isn’t realistic with all the other stuff he has had happen to him but i just want to take it all back and tell him how sorry i am and that he is cared about and its too late and its killing me.He was only 20 years old and he felt so unwanted and hopeless that he endured the suffering of hanging for 45 minutes before he was found, i cant get that image out of my head it will haunt me forever. How do i at least let go of enough of the guilt that i can move on enough to cope? I am a single mom of four kids and i have really not been all that much good to them since i heard the news cuz i cant stop crying for more than 5 minutes at a time. I think i have post partum on top of this and i’m just a real mess right now as you can probably tell. I wish i could just go back 5 hours and call him and tell him he’s not alone, i know what it feels like to feel all alone and i wish i hadn’t let him feel that way
Jessi thank you we did try so much to help him when he first entered our family but it seemed like he always fell back down. I guess he had just been damaged too much by the time he got to us. There were some pretty bad things done that led me to act the way i did to him but now that he’s gone it just feels insignificant and petty and although i know the few things i did that happened almost 2 years ago were probably the last thing on his mind as i said im a single mom of 4 so i know what its like to feel so alone and hopeless and i just wish i hadn’t done anything to make him feel that way if i did. i wish i could apologize and tell him he was still loved and cared for regardless of what he had done wrong. It probably wouldn’t have changed the outcome with everything he has been through but it would have eased my soul a little. The guilt is a big burden an i will never let my babies go to bed without telling them how much i love ever again. thank you for your kind words and prayers
Josh wherever you are i hope you are no longer hurting and are finally at peace like you could never be here on earth. Forgive me if i ever did or said anything to make you feel unloved or unwanted because you were loved and wanted and you will be missed more than you would have believed. I wish someone would have helped you when you were little before you had to go through what you did than maybe things would have been different and my nephew would still have his daddy. I miss you i hope your suffering has ended finally, i’m so sorry we couldn’t give you whatever it was you needed
I have not been diagnosed yet or anything but the descriptions of this disorder fit me almost exactly. Especially feeling abandoned & unloved to an overwhelming degree because of minor things. I got it in my head that my husband didnt love me therefore I should not love him. So I treated him like dirt even though I still loved him to death. I made him so miserable that he left me & he says he needs time to think things through to decide if he will come back. I’m trying to get counseling but its not easy where I live. I guess I just need to know if I should even hold on to any hope that I can get treatment and save my marriage. My husband is a wonderful man who does not deserve the way I have treated him & what he has had to put up with from me.
I have been married to my husband 10 years this past Aug. In Nov. of 2008 we were having troubles. Not talking or doing things together anymore. He spent more time away from home than with me because we really were just roommates. I felt unloved and not appreciated. He felt neglected and that I didn’t want to be with him anymore. A family member told me that he saw my husband out at dinner with another woman. ( I later found out this was made up and he never did cheat on me) I moved out a week before Thanksgiving. I moved in with a man I had been talking to for about 3 weeks. He told me how wonderful I was and how he worshiped the ground I walked on. We went for coffee and spent time talking and those things my husband stopped doing. I after moving in he told me to get a divorce after the holidays. He had big plans to go to Florida and live in a year or two and he said how wonderful I was and how he wanted to be with me and even that he loved me. After I moved in things quickly started to change, he told me I should stay home and not spend so much time with mother. I was not allowed to go to the store or off by myself. My cell phone call log and text was to be showed to him every night. All the sudden we were not going out every night. He got home at 4pm I got home at 6pm. I was to cook dinner and then clean up the house. Then was to be in bed by 9pm. We became intimate about 2 weeks after I moved in and while it was new and and a little exciting at first, his constant every night wanting it was not the affectionate loving man he said he was, now it was more of a chore. Luckily I stayed kind of sick for a while so that kept him away. I found out he was a heavy drinker too. This is not what he told me. He began working later and getting called in to work at odd times around middle of Jan. Found out later he was starting to hit on another woman. So in Feb. I came home one night and he was drunk and ended up shoving me.Told him my husband never laid a hand on me and he wasn’t going to start. I left the house and called my husband to pick me up a few blocks from the house. We talked things over and he took me back. He apologized and said we would need to see a councilor and work on us if I wanted to come back, which we did. It has been almost a year now and things are going wonderful. We are talking more, we open up easier and its like we are new friends again. But when we were separated I told him things, Like how I was having a great time over there, this new man was so fun and exciting and we had amazing sex every day 2 or 3 times a day. They were not true but I just wanted to hurt him at the time. In counseling he brought them up and I honestly forgot I really said so much, but he felt hurt. I told him it was not true but he said he still thinks about it. He has never asked me for DETAILS about what happened or what we did. I did tell him about the accident though. While over there one night the condom broke on us and I had to go get the morning after pill. ( I was not using anything because my husband had gotten a vasectomy the year before). I felt he had a right to know about that. And now I wonder if I should ask him if he wants me to disclose everything else that happened or not? I think it may bother him, but I didn’t want to hurt him and we have come so far already I would hate open up old wounds. But I dont want him to think I am hiding anything, which I am not. I know what I did was wrong. We should have gone for counseling before I left. I should not have assumed he had cheated on me. I should not have moved in with another man and had sex with while I was still married. But I wish I could help him know how bad I feel. He loves me more than he should and it scares me how much he cares for me. He never once said a bad word or did anything to me after I left. I just feel so much guilt and hope we finally move past this. Our life is wonderful now and we are both working hard, I just wonder if there is anything more I could do to help?
My husband appoligised for his part of our original problems. We always had communication problems both of us. And they eventually caught up with us. The last few months before I left we either didnt talk or when we did it was a fight. So he would come home, get on the computer or watch tv, or go out to his buddies house for 2 and 3 hours. Our not talking caused me to feel unloved, so when we did not make love he was getting more upset as well. It was a cycle of hurt that never ended. I did not intend to move in with the other man right away, he lived next to my brother and I was suppose to stay with him, but when I left my brother said to go ahead and stay next store. I did not have unprotected sex the condom broke. I could not risk having a baby because of my diabetes, thats why my husband had his vasectomy. I know I was wrong. My husband said everyone deserves a second chance, if they are truelly sorry. He is so wonderful and I just want to help him any way possible.
