Sorry about talking about my Ex so much, but I’m sure many of you have felt helpless and just needed to vent and hear that there is hope (even tho I know there is not much left). I just know that it is possible to get your ex back, so this is to all those girls who broke up with your BF and then took him back when he said he wanted/liked you still. Our break-up was not horrible, she just seemed very picky about stupid little things. I know I can fix what made her mad but she seems to just want to flirt around with other guys and have not attatchment, however I found a few pics of her on Fbook where she is all over this one guy, so I feel extra hurt because it seems like she actually likes this guy. I dunno. How can I get her back? How did your man get you back?
Hello, thanks for taking your time to read this. I’ll try to narrow it down as much as I can..
To be brief, we’ve been dating for almost two years. He broke up with my because I wanted more space and mentioned that I wanted to go casual (I know, dumb, you can’t go from serious to casual in a day) but we both didn’t drop it and we ended up "parting ways". I KNEW he was going to come back to me, so I let it be. So my girlfriends introduced me to guys, partied, etc, and I feel like I’m finding myself again. Being single isn’t so bad. I didn’t miss him, and people were worried (how I dealt with is so quickly), but happy that I’m moving on without heartache. To be honest, I’m not that strong.. i just tried to keep myself occupied and tried not to vent it out on people. It went fine for about a week. But lately he’s been contacting me, perhaps because I’m sick. The other day he gave me medicine and offered to go eat out, but I declined. I knew that we would both get touchy-touchy and I knew at the end of the day I’d regret doing it (It would feel like I was leading him on). However, the following day he contacts me telling me to come over, watch a movie, and eat with him.. But I broke it down to him that he can’t just pretend nothing happened even though we’ve only broken up for two weeks..It was truly heartbreaking how upset he sounded, but tried not to show it. The last thing he said to me was: "I’m sorry. It was a mistake."
Long story short, I find it hard to be alone because I miss him. But when I’m out during the weekends, I don’t miss him at all (And I’m guilty of this, because we’ve been going out for so long). I find it hard to get used to not talking to someone everyday at night, or receiving text messages..
He is a great, sensitive nice guy.. That’s all I can say. He’s never ever done anything to hurt me in the past, that why I can’t get over him as quickly as I should (even though he broke up with me). He’s my first true love and we shared the best moments of our life together..
So my question is, should I get back with him even if I don’t know what I want? It’s killing me inside knowing one foot is out the door, and the other one isn’t. I’m somewhere in between.. and I can’t make up my mind. My friends don’t really have any advice for me because they’ve never been in my position before.
Thanks a bunch…
- Confused
we have been married for 11 yrs and the signs were there. I never grew up, never paid as much attention to my wife as i should have. I always loved her. More than anyone could know. Just now that i think i let her slip too far away…..and shes found someone who will listen and care for her. I want to stop it before anything happens and i have confronted her about. She says it will stop, but i know its not that easy. It breaks my heart thinking about the whole situation. This is new news to me, i ha vent eaten in 3 days, im missing work, im a total wreck. I love her more than anything in the world,,,do you think its too late for me? i know i should have been the best husband all along, not only when something like this happens. I really need some answers and someone to talk to, im all alone here..
my husband’s ex wife sent him naughty pics a while ago and i found out about it when i called her she acted like a straight punk @## female dog and blew me off and hung up on me. Now im feelin some type of way because i didn’t get to vent on her and i’m not tring to get locked up for this hoe either. what can i do to get her back if anything
Hello,
I will apologize in advance for the length of this but I really don’t have anyone to talk to. I don’t feel like I have anyone who understands what I’m feeling. So I’m going to vent for the first time about my feelings here with you.
I just turned 28 and had a mental break down over my birthday. Now that I am approaching my 30’s I see that I have accomplished nothing in my life. I have been living from paycheck to paycheck working in retail for over 10 years now with nothing to show for. I still live with my parents, I am always broke, I have no friends, and I am terrified at the thought of going to school again. My life mainly consist of working lots of hours at dead end jobs that get me nowhere and pay near nothing.
Suicide lingers in the back of my mind often, but I know I could never go through with it because I want to be there for my 5th grade son. I am ashamed that I couldn’t have provided a better life for him. I lacked the ambition to stay in college because I couldn’t even pass my prerequisite math and english courses to pursue a degree. I feel like an incompetent loser.
My girlfriend of 3 years loved me and accepted me for who I am. We lived together for 2 and a half years. She was always supportive of me and wanted nothing more than to get married and start a family. I love her with all my heart. But I constantly doubted myself because I can barely take care of myself and my son as it is. How can I possibly have a wife and more children? I even cheated on her and she found it in her heart to forgive me. I took her love for me for granted.
I made the mistake of telling her I was afraid of being able to provide for her as a husband and ended up leaving her. Because I wanted her to be with someone who could take care of her better than I ever could.
Throughout the entire time we were separated we were still in love and intimate with each other. She made plans to hang out with me one night and I wanted to have a serious talk about getting back together. Before she was about to come over she called and told me she was just going to have a few drinks with her sister for a few hours then come right over and hang out. She ended up getting completely wasted without any consideration of answering my calls and telling me what was going on. It wasn’t until after midnight I got a hold of her and she was trashed. I was so worried yet disappointed at the same time. So I decided to hold back on getting back together.
After a few months I told her that I wanted to give it another shot and work things out. I would do everything I could to make sure we could have the life she wanted. Even though it was just a few months of being separated she was unsure because she finally realized that she could do better. I knew she was dating other people but she promised me that she wouldn’t become intimate with anyone else while we were trying to work things out. I trusted her with all my heart and took her word for it.
While she was intimate with me and trying to repair our relationship I was trying really hard to get her to stop seeing other people. She ended up sleeping with someone else. Someone who was loaded with money and could make sure she would never have to work ever again. Someone who was everything I wasn’t. When I confronted her about it she denied it. I trusted her and loved her so much that I blindly accepted her for her word. Weeks later she finally she admitted it to me what happened then ended up breaking it off with him. Then we officially got back together.
I forgave her and blamed myself for what happened. I could have prevented all this damage if I just had the confidence in myself to stay with her. To work it out I had faith that our love for one another would prevail and even grow stronger in repairing our relationship. We’ve been back together for 3 months now but I can tell her heart is not in it like it used to be. It doesn’t feel the same like it used to. My love for her is stronger than ever. But it doesn’t feel mutual anymore. Now it feels like I’m putting all the effort in repairing our relationship than she is.
I commute to see her everyday. I’m always trying to make a difference with the little money I have in improving her yard, buying her flowers, and taking her to the movies. I drive over 45 minutes round trip even if its just to see her for only an hour at her work, and take her out to lunch. I take better care of her than I do myself. I put her before me always. While we only separated for a few months but we were still in love and intimate with each other, and she totally broke my heart. But my love for her is so great that I look pass it and am eager to move on.
Before I left her I could have asked her to marry me and she would have said yes. Now I can tell she isn’t ready. When in the beginning it was all she ever wanted. Now that I’m ready to make that commitment I fear that she realizes that I’m not the best choice for her and the kind of fu
I’m on the verge of losing the love of my life. I hurt the only person who ever truly understood me. I’ve found myself breaking down and crying 4-5 times a day for the last 3 months. I feel that I am good for nothing. I have nothing to show for. Nothing to be proud of. All I have around me are constant reminders of how much I have failed in life. If it wasn’t for my son and having hope that I can still work things out with my girlfriend I would’ve killed myself already.
I imagine how much better off everyone would be if I was dead. My son would be taken care of better and happy that I wasn’t there to be a dead beat loser that wasted his life accomplishing nothing. My girlfriend would finally be happy with someone that can give her everything she wants and not have to worry about me holding her back and bringing her down all the time.
future she wants. In just a few months of being separated it has completely damaged and forever changed her love for me.
She was the only person I could have imagined a future with. Never have I felt such a strong connection with someone in my entire life. All my life all I have done is let people down and fail everyone. I was never confident enough to make things better. I spent the last 10 years of my life just barely getting by because I was a coward. Now I’m almost 30 with absolutely nothing to show for but countless regrets and bitter disappointments in myself.
All I want to do is spend my free time with her on the days my son stays with his mom. I have absolutely no friends and nothing to look forward to but being with her. She has a lot of close friends that absolutely despise me for hurting her the way I did. I don’t blame them nor hold any grudge towards their feelings about me. I completely understand their feelings about me. I understand she wants time to hang out with them. But when she slept with that other guy she lied to me and told me she was at the bars with her friends that night.
I told her that she needs to start building my trust again before she can go out drinking with them. I wouldn’t care if they hang out but I don’t like the idea of her drinking. In the past every time she went out for "a few drinks" she has always proven to be unreliable. She never calls when she says she’s going to, and never comes home when she says she’s going to.
She makes it seem like I’m making her choose between her and her friends but all I’m asking is for her to be responsible and not to drink. It’s not impossible to enjoy yourself without a drinking. I don’t feel like I’m asking too much. I just want her to be reliable and show some interest in repairing my trust in her and our relationship.
Is our relationship damaged beyond repair? I feel like no matter how hard I try it is never good enough. It is so difficult because I love her with all my heart I don’t want to lose her again. But at the same time she doesn’t love me in the same way like she did.
I’m not into bars or drinking. I prefer to stay home or go out and do things that don’t require getting wasted. I am aware that I have serious self esteem issues with how I think I have accomplished nothing in life but disappointment in myself. I feel it’s too late for me to make a better life in the little time frame my girlfriend wants it. What can I do?
Thank you for reading this.
I have a little law firm near the water, and my wife of fourteen years unexpectedly came up to my office last month, only to catch me going down on my (female) secratary. She threw-up in the office and wouldn’t come home for a few days.
When she got back home, she asked me why I did it. I told her that our marriage just didn’t grant me the lustful side of life I need.I just let her vent her frustrations then left to go get a BJ from my secratary.
My wife told me about her proposal, when I got back home. I was to join PETA (the national foundation for animal rights) or she would divorce me. She is an animal fanatic and has wanted me to put my financial weight behind the organization for a while. She knew she had me in a corner. Divorce or pay her off by funneling money into PETA’s coffers.
But then two crazy things happened after that.
About a week after I had made my first contribution to PETA, I was on the phone with the secratary, since I didn’t believe my wife was home. She was home, in fact. And she overheard me telling the secratary that I was surprised over how she (my wife) had never caught me in any of my past affairs. That was the moment my wife realized that I had cheated on her with other women. And her attitude changed from there.
But what really confuses me is what happened next. A couple weeks after that infamous phone call, I was driving home and I just happened to be going over the speed limit. And, simultaneously, a dog walked out in front of my car as a sheriff deputy hit his sirens and lights. Normally the law enforcement use their lights for traffic violations. But the deputy’s sirens made me kneejerk my steering wheel and run the dog over. I got out and tried to revive the dog, but he was dead.
Everything was taped. The deputy taped me killing the dog. My wife was told about the incident, and somehow the tape made its way to PETA. At my last PETA event I was formally removed from the organization. I was called "dog killer" until I quit arguing my case and just left.
Now my wife is divorcing me, since I can no longer be a member of PETA (the only reason she was hanging onto our marriage)
Our local Sheriff is young and single and handsome, and, since we live in a small town, everyone knows him. I saw him and my wife having lunch the other day. Did my wife sleep with the sheriff to get the tape, then remove the scene where it shows he trying to save the dog, and give it to PETA?
Did her finding out about the other women push her over the edge?
And, finally, is there a way to save my marriage?
I have a little law firm near the water, and my wife of fourteen years unexpectedly came up to my office last month, only to catch me going down on my (female) secretary. She threw-up in the office and wouldn’t come home for a few days.
When she got back home, she asked me why I did it. I told her that our marriage just didn’t grant me the lustful side of life I need.I just let her vent her frustrations then left to go get a BJ from my secretary.
My wife told me about her proposal, when I got back home. I was to join PETA (the national foundation for animal rights) or she would divorce me. She is an animal fanatic and has wanted me to put my financial weight behind the organization for a while. She knew she had me in a corner. Divorce or pay her off by funneling money into PETA’s coffers.
But then two crazy things happened after that.
About a week after I had made my first contribution to PETA, I was on the phone with the secretary, since I didn’t believe my wife was home. She was home, in fact. And she overheard me telling the secratary how I was surprised over how she (my wife) had never caught me in any of my past affairs. That was the moment my wife realized that I had cheated on her with other women. And her attitude changed from there.
But what really confuses me is what happened next. A couple weeks after that infamous phone call, I was driving home and I just happened to be going over the speed limit. And, simultaneously, a dog walked out in front of my car as a sheriff deputy hit his sirens and lights. Normally the law enforcement use their lights for traffic violations. But the deputy’s sirens made me kneejerk my steering wheel and run the dog over. I got out and tried to revive the dog, but he was dead.
Everything was taped. The deputy taped me killing the dog. My wife was told about the incident, and somehow the tape made its way to PETA. At my last PETA event I was formally removed from the organization. I was called "dog killer" until I quit arguing my case and just left.
Now my wife is divorcing me, since I can no longer be a member of PETA (the only reason she was hanging onto our marriage)
Our local Sheriff is young and single and handsome, and, since we live in a small town, everyone knows him. I saw him and my wife having lunch the other day. Did my wife sleep with the sheriff to get the tape, then remove the scene where it shows he trying to save the dog, and give it to PETA?
Did her finding out about the other women push her over the edge?
And, finally, is there a way to save my marriage?
