I am in a happy, stable (semi open) marriage with my man. He allows me to date women. We have been together 10 years. He and I recently met/got to slightly know a woman who is SPECTACULAR! Since the minute we both met her (and each separately the first time) we conected with her on many levels, and she was very flirty with us sep and then together when we met up together. We both got an immediate bi or lesbian vibe from her. But then we found out she was married but yet she continues to exude a flirtatiousness with mostly me the woman. (less with him now) Soon we will be meeting HER husband as well and will be hanging out as a couple. I don’t think they are swingers but I can almost bet SHE is at least bi (or closeted). I am SOOOO attracted to her that I burst out of my skin when I think of her!!! And when she was in my presence those few times, I got the same kind of energy from her that she also loves being in my presence! I am almost certain I am not mistaken with these vibes, I am also pretty sure she knows I am bi bc its openly on my myspace profile as such and we are friends on there. We are going to start hanging out as 2 couples soon, and though I am happy to be ‘just friends’ with the couple, my crush will always shine thru I fear. How, if, or when should I tell or show her I am attracted to her? At some point I don’t mind risking rejection if I do make a move and she declines. Because I know we and I could still be friends even with the humiliation of being rejected lol, but she is SO worth the chance to find out! Last time we hung out with her, she was excited about drinking wine together. If we have wine again, and she continues to be flirty, and I continue to be attracted, should I use the wine to my advantage lol…! And how do I make a move? Ask first or try to be a little affectionate and see what happens? In the meantime, I can’t stop thinking about her. My husband thinks its so cute… I am lucky to have the relationship I have with him and I will never leave my man. But this woman is literally ONE in a million and I would love to nurture whatever special relationship/friendship I can with her. And, where does her hubby fit in all this? Also, I am in my 30s the woman in her late 40s thanks!
Not everyone views marriage as YOU people do. 65% of people cheat on their spouses. I really hoped that someone with an OPEN mind could have answered my question properly instead of judge me. And for the first 2 responders, for your info, we have brought other people in before with nothing but bliss and fun for all… you should try it sometime! 
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Long story short:
My ex loved me, but I was insecure. After 1,5 years he ended it. I fell in love with him, I realized what I had neglected. He gave me a second chance two weeks later. Two weeks after that he dumped me again. He didnt feel anything he said. I cried. I called him the day after. It felt good to talk to him, as always. I said (but only kidding) that I would call again the next day. I didnt, and he called me. He said I was a manipulative brat! But he said it with humor while laughing. The next day he called, three times. He even called to say good night. I took care of his pet for four days. When he returned we ate in a restaurant, and went to my place. He sat on my lap while we talked. We kissed and I left for my 5 week vacation. I returned not knowing what he wanted as the signals had been mixed. I went to his place, drank some wine and it "clicked" for me. I needed answers. And now! He said he felt better off alone, not with me. I said we should have NO contact. He felt REALLY bad and convinced me to remain friends.
I stopped calling and texting him, and he sent me a text message 10 days later wishing me well and humorously saying I was strangely "silent". I answered. Today I called. We talked for 30 min. Nothing special, no "loving" vibes. Just friends. He seems afraid of sending me wrong signals again because he knows I want him. But he is still relaxed enough to talk and laugh with me.
My question: I really want him back! I have no longer expectations, just hopes. What do I do next. I said id start training 5 days I week. He said "Ive heard that one before". He has, many times. But Im serious now! To prove him and most important – me!
Had I not gone on my vacation he would not have gotten used to not seeing me so much.
What do I do…?
Ive told him I want him back already. But he doesnt want to.
Should I remain a friend? I dont want to be stupid and ignore him. I neglected him too much as a couple already.
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Ok, so I met this girl a couple of years ago and shes 2 years older than I am (Im 17 and shes 19 now). I didn’t think much other than, "yeh, shes pretty…so what" but recently (past 6 months) I’ve had the chance to get to know her a lot, lot more and well, I fell in love with her. So I started feeling strong vibes coming my way, I muscled up the courage to tell her how I feel about her in hopes that she feels the same way. All she kept saying softly was that I was younger than she was and she doesn’t date younger guys but when I asked her if she had feelings for me, she would get real quiet. After that moment, I totally disconnected myself and about 3 weeks after she was acting really seductive and flirty. This keeps happening, when she feels I’m going after her, she backs off & vise versa. But the biggest problem is that shes constantly hanging out with this one guy that I know from before to be the biggest ladies man I know. This guy ALWAYS gets his way with women and I’m afraid hes going to get his way with the women I want so, so, so BADLY. please help me out….what should I do…I cant get her off of my mind for a consecutive 5 seconds.
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