…and they break up…Do you think that you need to stop talking to them?
My sister in law was going out with my husband and I’s friend (who was our friend before they got together) for a few mths.only a few mths. They move in together and they broke up after a few weeks of living together..seriously less than a month. …yeah I know. They’ve been broken up for about 3 weeks now.
Anyway….our friend has a little girl a little younger than ours. And he invited us up to his house (she moved out since he paid for the whole place) so the girls could play,we could see his new puppy and so my husband and him could pay some new video game..lol. I took pictures of the girls playing and the puppy and posted them to my myspace. I figured our friend could save the pics of his little girl and his dog and have them too. My sister in law posts a myspace status saying "you never know who will stab you in the back,especially family" then her mood said " betrayed" I can only assume she means her brother and I have "betrayed’ her by visiting our friend.
Now we have tried to remain neutral on this thing. really. How can we tell out friend " No…we can’t hang out with you…because of a break up that has nothing to do with us"
She expects "loyalty" from us when she would always send my husband’s ex g/f messages and saying they were going to hang out and stuff. Did I get pissed? No. Because they were friends before I got on the scene…regardless of my feelings for my husband’s ex!!
Now this has only just happened…but I guarantee you it will snowball into something huge. My mother in law who already hates me will take her side and since that’s where my sister in law lives..we will not be able to go over there.
I said to myself "maybe I shouldn’t post these pictures"..but I thought she would mature enough to understand that my husband and I and our friend have a right to hang out with whoever we want and its not OUR fault things didn’t work out between them….
I’m not taking the pics down…that would show that I thought I did something wrong…and I don’t think I did.
thoughts on this situation?? advice?
No he didn’t abuse her. It was just a fight .
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this is the last convo i had with my ex(3weks), it was about our break up do u think he’s fully over it, cus i love him so much and wanna tell him i still do,
me: are u still mad cus u can tell me
him:umm u said i dumped u cus of a video game
me: umm u prety much did
him: so u forget makingout with so and so,
me:i was drunk, i cried so much to forgive me, i loved you so much and u didnt even care u ignored me all summer cus of that game.
him:so u let him kiss you
me: no, i never let him i loved you so much i cant even remeber it but i know that i would never do anything to hurt you
him: i dont even care nemore, it was his plan to do it along
me: so why couldnt u forgve me
him: w.e fine your the one bringing it up, everyone tell me that your always cring about us, so tell them to stfu
me: that only happend once because i loved you, and missed you
him: you did it urself
me:u did it
i loved u so much and i didnt men to
him:ok
i wana tell him i still love him tho??
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It is not that I want to leave him. But he’s hurt me – a lot. He’s also lied about so many little pointless things that I’ve lost trust. He is not a man of his word so it’s hard to find little reasons to gain back trust. I say I love him when he says it to me, but I don’t say it first usually.
He needs to learn to stop lying. He needs to find ways to gain my trust back. Four years of lying and doing horrible things really hurt. I can forgive him all I want, but he doesn’t understand that it doesn’t take pain away or put trust back.
I don’t know how to love him anymore. How do you fall in love again?
What would you tell him if you could?
He IS seeing someone, for about 2 months now. Although I don’t think he’s talking about the right things – he thinks he’s perfect it seems and that I am the problem.
I’m 20 he is 22.
Actually what’s funny is he only does things alone but in the same room as me. He doesn’t involve me with anything. He hardly talks to me, I understand some because he’s not a talkative guy – but he says nothing. He will not read with me, will not do anything unless it’s watch TV or play a video game with me. Which doesn’t make me feel better, I just feel like his brother or roommate.
Exactly what I told you/everyone (above) is what I’ve nicely said to him. He actually yelled at me for it. He thinks I’m holding a grudge and it’s all my fault. I’ve never hurt him, lied to him, never cheated on him or did anything wrong. Most I’ve ever done was call him a jerk or other small name because he name calls me ALL the time.
We have a 1 yr old btw. I’m the only one who takes care of her, even when I want a break, he doesn’t do anything to help me. 
I love our daughter but I need time to myself and it’s his child TOO.
At this point I don’t know what would put even a fraction of trust back. He’s done a lot wrong, I don’t want to list the horrible things. But he treats me wrong – that’s the point of this. He wants to work things out but doesn’t do anything.
My dad abandoned me and my husband’s new catchphrase is "I’m not your dad" because he thinks I’m mad at him because of him. Which IS wrong, I’m mad my husband spend the first year together, behind my back, trying to get someone else back. I’m pissed about other things he’s done, all the lying/cheating, him being stupid… I’m hurt about that. He knows this, and thinks I have a grudge. I don’t and even if I did, I am allowed to have lost love and trust in him from the things he’s done.
NO HE IS SEEING A DOCTOR that’s what I mean not another ‘person’
Well if anyone is willing to help 1-on-1 my yahoo IM is cizinsmistress
we have a little girl together. He doesn’t help me with her – ever. I’m the only one to take care of her. Even when I’m unwell. I never get a break. As much as I love her – it is his child TOO.
Okay — we’ve seen the movies. Didn’t change a thing.
If anyone wants to help 1-on-1 my yahoo IM is cizinsmistress
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