I broke up with me ex boyfriend we were both 22, virgins and met online, well we were still friends really but just dating getting used to each other. I told him on msn I don’t think it would work out however he didn’t take it very well and started saying things like ‘geez I must be seriously ugly’ I said ‘no your not and you will find a girl who you will fancy way more than me’ He replied ‘Don’t take this the wrong way but when I first saw you I wasn’t so sure but it was your personality I liked’.
He apologized and said he was ‘sorry for acting like an a**hole’ and said that he still wants to talk with me yet is still indirectly insulting me. :/ Like last week he was complaining to me over msn about his life and how girls ignore him etc and how he must be ugly etc I was trying to comfot him and told him he was far from ugly and he will find the right girl and then he replied with ‘well lets be honest, I couldn’t even start with you’. He wanted me to rate on out of 10 he is insecure about his looks. Then went back to talking about his life again. He does compliment me too he said I was more level headed than most girls lol.
He said before I met him that he speaks his mind but is he really just being honest or are these things he says about me something that I shouldn’t have to hear? Is it just me being petty and him being honest? He was nice to me while it lasted but when I broke up with him he posted a thread on a forum we both go on asking for advice saying that he was worried about being very ugly because he met a girl who wasn’t exactly the best of looking (referring to me) and even though he lowered his standards and gave me a chance he still got rejected.
I don’t know what was going on in his head he has apologized since but was he just being honest or was it emotional revenge in a way? Maybe guys would be better answering this..
btw try not to judge me by age its just a number lol Im the first to admit Im immature for my age but I thought breaking up gently was better than leading him on.
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for five years now and it was a long distances relationship that we had and we are both virgins and everything (just saying so that you do not answer that that is the problem) and about two months ago he told me he did not feel it for me anymore like love wise but he care about me like he wants to see me finish college and everything and he said tha the met this girl at his job and he says that he gets butterflies when he sees her…. i told him not to talk to her and stuff and he agree that he would not do that and that we would try to make everything right….. two months pass and i felt it comming when this monday he said that he does not want to be a cheater and that he wants to break up with me so that he can ask that other girl out….i have been an emotional train reck…. my friends are there for me but all of them have different opinions some say i should leave for good and some say i should just do what i think is right…..i hate and love him at the same time but i feel like i could forgive him for what he did and everything because i feel inside that it is somehow meant to be…. he still calls me and its during the night he told me that he only want to talk during the night and be friends….i asked him if there would every be a chance that he would return to me or at least try to love me agian and he said that it was a possiblity but for some reason i am doubting that and i don’t know why…. i just break down and cry for no apparent reason and my heart feels so numb that it has actually effected my health i have not slept properly in days and every time i eat i feel like throwing up and i start to gage which i hate soooo much….. he told me that he really wants to be with her and everything because he feels a connection he is about to graduate from college and she does not even consider to go to get a higher education…. last night he told me that it was easier to talk to me then her because her english is not good (she is of asian decent) and we are european….i feel as if he is making a mistake and i dont know why in the world he would want to do such a thing when he was the one to tell me that i was the one and that he want to me to carry his baby etc…every time he came here it felt magical and we would both get goose bumps….and i agree that he could talk to me at night because id o not want to let go of someone i love sooo much and i donno what to do i tried not to talk to him but the next day i went into a depressing mode and texted him telling him to call me…. he still asks me who i am with and we am talking to if i dont answer the phone whihc does nto make sense. Some of my friends told me not to talk to him no moer because he is a jerk and last night we have both decided that we will talk and everything and that he wanted it to be a secret from his parents, friends, and that girl that he did not care what they think of him and everything i just dont understand why does he want to talk to me and keep it a secret and that he wants to try to be with her…. i ask him if he thinks it might be serious he tells me he does not know and says somthing like "maybe i just be with her for two weeks’ and stuff like that and everytime i ask him if he would return to me he says that he might but if he did he would move here for good and then i tell him that i truly dont think that he will do that and he tells me it is something that i siad and not him… but when i asked him if he thought that he would come back to me now he said no and then when i ask him if he would come back to me in the future he said Maybe if he gets the love back i jsut dont know i just want my best friend back adn the person taht i had everything with i am dieing inside as a person i try so hard not to but there is something much more stronger than me inside of me like something is keeping here for a reason and please dont say that it is because i love him and stuff its just more than that because i feel that there is no girl that would do all this that i would for him i jsut dont know my friend today told me that if he did not return that there would be another guy i would make lucky but he would not make me lucky the only man i want is him and if i cant have him i will remain single… i just wish he would realize what we have and had especially if he wants to talk to me and everything just give me your opinion and please do not leave any stupid remarks
the thing is that i am not trying to be selfish it just that i cant give myself to someone else if i am not there mentally for them i feel like he was my everything and its easier said than done i love him beyong belief i just donno i jsut cant be with anohter guy it makes me thing of him and everything and i dont see it as being true to that other person its like using that other person you know:?
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My boyfriend and I have been together for about 5 months. Our relationship is relly intense and we love each other so much. The problem is that he can’t stop thinking about and picturing me sleeping with my ex-boyfriends. It is really starting to affect our relationship. He knows that he needs help with it and wants me to help him get over it but I’m not sure how. Any ideas or suggestions?
Sorry paige but getting over it is not that easy or he would be over it by now. And no, we are not virgins, we are 28.
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I am 19 and my bf is 20, we are both virgins (I know I am, not sure if he is lying). We started having handjobs and he wanted to have sex earlier but I said I won’t coz I am saved for marriage. Now I said I will stop having handjobs, he said its not gonna work out like that. There are things I wanna change in him, and he says I WILL CHANGE and he keeps agreeing with whatever I say, almost, can I believe him or is he saying that to hang me and make me love him more??? He shouldn’t change anyway but he claimes he will. So, 1- I am not sure if he will change coz otherwise it won’t work out!!! 2- he says I am waaay more than sex to him and he wants to marry me, but he is so concerened about handjobs and was concered about sex although now he understands and says he won’t do it until we tie the bond.
Just so you know: I am drop dead gorgeous (what people say), smart, faithful, tender-hearted and my friends say I can find better but ADVICES are APPRECIATED GREATLY!! WHAT SHOULD I DOOO??
He says he IS so turned always he sees me and hits my butt in public!!! Only thing is, he says he will CHANGE and I don’t know whether to believe him or not.
Also, for: "stop being selfish", so its all about handjobs? I give him all my love, all my care, support, I will give him my virginity in future, I am always there for him when he needs me. He also seems cheap, isn’t that selfish for me? And aren’t we supposed to love "each other’s heart/ personality" first, and then think of handjobs and sex during marriage to strengthen our bond?
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Two high school sweethearts who went out together for four years in high school were both virgins; they enjoyed losing their virginity with each other in 10th grade. When they graduated, they wanted to both go to the same college but the girl was accepted to a college on the east coast, and the guy went to the west coast.
They agreed to be faithful to each other and spend anytime they could together. As time went on, the guy would call the girl and she would never be home, and when he wrote, she would take weeks to return the letters. Even when he emailed her, she took days to return his messages. Finally, she confessed to him she wanted to date around. He didn’t take this very well and increased his calls, letters, and emails trying to win back her love.
Because she became annoyed, and now had a new boyfriend, she wanted to get him off her back. So, what she did is this: she took a Polaroid picture of her sucking her new boyfriend’s unmentionables and sent it to her old boyfriend with a note reading, "I found a new boyfriend, leave me alone."
Well, needless to say, this guy was heartbroken but, even more so, was pissed. So, this is what he did next: He wrote on the back of the photo the following, "Dear Mom and Dad, having a great time at college, please send more money!" and mailed the picture to her parents.
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