Should I leave my husband and be with the man of my dreams?

I have found my first love from 17 yrs ago. We were young, both barely 18 then and he came to visit his uncle who stayed on my street in Ohio. We fell deeply in love but both planned to attend college soon in our home states and were afraid of moving because of no jobs or finances so we broken heartedly let things go. We found each other on Facebook and have been talking every since Oct. He still lives in Arkansaw and I am still in Ohio. Also I am still married to my husband of 10yrs. We have not been happy for the last 7yrs. Before I even got back in touch with my friend I have wanted out. Life has been filled with no intimacy or laughter in so long that I have almost forgotten how good it feels just to enjoy someones conversation. I do not want life to pass me by without experiencing true love and happiness. And I know my children are not benifiting from such a dry and lifeless marriage either. My lost love says that he is willing to wait and that he never stopped looking for me. He said that he will love my children as his own and is willing to do whatever it takes to have me in his life again. He tells me he loves me everyday. My husband doesn’t have a clue as usual. He just works and complains and in between watches a little television. Whether I move to be with this man or not, I know that I am not happy here. And I have tried to make it work but after 7yrs, I just can’t settle for what my husband is willing to give to the relationship. I don’t want to grow old with this man. Please offer some advice as to what I should do. I know what my heart is saying. My head is just so use to restricting myself and playing it safe because my husband has not cheated (that I know of), and I am not being abused. Please help me to take the leap…. or should I?


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I feel like I am failing my daughter nutritionally? Her pickyness w/me is really getting to me?

I was really looking forward to having the entire week off from work due to spring break (I work at a school in the office) and being with my little girl. BUT I forgot how "bad" I am at feeding her! whenever my mil watches her, she always says "oh she ate so much today". well either she’s got the magic touch or she’s force feeding her b/c I can’t get my own daughter to eat and it makes me want to cry.
Here’s a typical food-wise day for her w/me al day:
—this morning—sat her at the table with me in a regular chair, (shes able to sit like a big person), with some strawberries n’ cream cream of wheat. I have cream of wheat too and eat in front of her. She refused, ran away, i told her sternly to come back or i’m throwing it away, she laughs, i then physically get her and sit her on my lap, get her to take one bite then she runs away again. So, then i figure maybe shes not in the mood for hot cereal, so i get her rice crispies instead. She had maybe 5 spoonfuls (of a big spoon) and that was it.
—Snack: some strawberries and grapes in a bowl, usually this is a hit even w/me but today she had 2 bites and threw the rest on the carpet.
—Lunch; I made bowtie pasta w/pasta sauce and some broccoli and cheese sauce mixed in. to me it was pretty good, she took maybe 6 spoonfuls and that was it. I then offered her a yogurt, the strawberry flavor that she usually likes, and she ran off. Also, between the 6 spoonfuls it was a battle: she would take 1 bite, then run off. i firmly told her to come back, shed laugh, I’d go and fetch her. I then finally sucked up and turned on abby cadabby on youtube for her (that usually gets ehr distracted enough to open ehr mouth and eat0. With that only the 2 last bites.

2nd snack: milk w/some dry cheerios and grapes, had all the milk, only like 5 cheerios and 2 grapes. These are her fave sometimes.

tonight i plan on making lasagana, the frozen kind. the kind my mom makes she will tear up even when i feed it to her, hopefully it will be the same for this.

I am really feeling discouraged that i have so much trouble convincing her to eat, that i put in all this effort making things for her that i think are healthy and also tasty only to throw most of it away. I am so desperate and i don’t know what to do. I am frustrated and puzzled as to why my mil, my mom, even her dad, and even the DAYCARE PROVIDER, a near stranger, can get her to sit and eat and i can’t. My mom says she’s playing a game w/me. is she do you think? I wish this game would stop. if only she knew how sad it made Mommy feel lol.
also she doesn’t run out of energy, she can go all day on just a few bites and a few sips of any liquid, it bugs me lol how she manages to do this and not need food that much.
I took her to the dr’s today for a cough that’s ongoing, and brought this up too. They said it was a separate issue and required a separate appt so next tues I can say all this to the pedi. She said it did sound like a cause for concern—getting her to just sit and eat—b/c it’s been ongoing. She’s 20 months btw.
also, when she was younger i introduced solids to her in a highchair, so it’s not like she started out just being able to get up while eating. I had her in her highchair til about 15 mons old then i decided to take the daycare provider’s advice and let her eat liek a ‘big person" sitting ina regular chair. but now i think i should bring the highchair back and so does the pediatrician i saw today. but I stopped bc it did seem too confinign and she was always doing potentially dangerous things in it like try to climb out even when strapped in etc.
Why is she like this w/ mainly just me?
Any other moms dealing/dealt with similar behavior eating-wise?
k; i DO give her a variety. What i gave her today was not the same as what i offered yesterday, or the day before. BUT i do try and give her things she will predictably eat, like cheerio’s.
how is what i’m doing ‘utterly crazy’? it’s only utterly crazy bc of the way SHE acts. but you’re right: i need to not coax her or praise her, and treat eating as more a casual thing.
Also, I don’t only spoon-feed her, I offer her plenty of finger foods (grapes, fries, pasta, dry cereals, blocks of cheese, cut up steamed veggies0 but even then she runs away or throw it on the floor. so sometimes spoon-feeding her is the only way i can get her to take bites.


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What do you think of my lyrics?

I NEED TO KNOW

if you could only see the way
he looks at you when you turn away
you wouldn’t have to wonder
is this love

the way he watches you move your lips
and when you stumble, fall and when you trip
but you turn to see him
and hes gone

so come on
take a chance
ask that girl out
to the dance

Chours: I wanna know more about you
I wanna know your favorite colors blue
I need to know
I need to know
I wanna know the way you feel inside
don’t let your true colors hide
I need to know
I need to know

I hear you might ask me to the dance
but this could be a fake romance
I ask my friends
what I should do

they say go on take a chance
go on go with him to the dance
you’ll have a great time
dancing under the stars

Chorus

then one day you take me by surprise
you reveal your hidden disguise
what am I to do

Chorus

Louise

I find it hard to believe the way your looking at her
u think she’s just another pretty girl
but theres more to her than just her dark brown curls
she’s different from those other girls

she lays there at night counting the celing panels
so far shes counted 492
she watches tv flipping aimlessy through channels
can’t wait till she gets through

CHORUS:
to scared to show her real self she hides behind
and wishes you knew your always on her mind
she makes a fingerprint engraved in your skin
the most beautiful tattoo it makes your head spin
so get her to open her eyes and see what the rest of the world sees
because she feels far away, bring me back louise

I wish she could see just what you do
because when she looks in the mirror she doesn’t see whats true
that girl with freckles all over her cheeks
the one who barely murmurs a word, the one who never speaks

CHORUS x2

UNDERGROUND

Verse 1
i’m over the fight over the fear
the end of the dark is finally here
i’m not letting go i’m trying to show
just how i feel this loves really real

ive just got to keep trying ill get there someday
who knows tomorrow, maybe today
keep holding on, were almost there
don’t worry babe I promise I swear

CHORUS
the walls start to crumble
were almost there
weve got to hurry up no time to spare
grab my hand ill lead the way
the times flying by, disapeering away
i was stuck under ground
without any light
for just too long but now it’s right

Verse 3
your deep blue eyes set into my face
nothing here but wide open space
the walls around me have finally gone
I am now free to move on

i now know what i want it is easy to see
im looking at you your looking at me

CHORUS x 2

50 years from now

Were jumping up and down on my old trampoline
I look up at the sky it’s an amazing clear blue
the green in your eyes shines next to the yellow flowers in bloom
we pump our legs to see who can pump higher
our hair blows in the wind and we play hide and seek
the days fly by and soon Monday is Friday
and one day the day will come when I’ll have to leave

but I’ll always remember the days I spent with you
on my bedroom floor under the red and blue tent
and I’ll never forget the time we went to sleep at 2 am
and the day we saw the movie that made me cry
and when we used to play dress ups and jump so high
and when you held my hand when we both crossed the finish line
those are the days I will remember when I’m sitting next to you 50 years from now

We’ve got our pink dresses and our makeup on
we go downstairs and play singstar until the morning
we’d pick handfuls of honeysuckles in the spring
We wouldn’t spend a second away from each other
people were always like wow those girls are always together
we linked arms and walked at the same pace
and I’d look at your smile and think I don’t want to leave this place

but I’ll always remember the days I spent with you
on my bedroom floor under the red and blue tent
and I’ll never forget the time we went to sleep at 2 am
and the day we saw the movie that made me cry
and when we used to play dress ups and jump so high
and when you held my hand when we both crossed the finish line
those are the days I will remember when I’m sitting next to you 50 years from now x2

Who knows where will be in the future
nothing is certain but all I know for now is one thing
that I’ll be sitting next to you 50 years from now

please let me know what you think. thanks in advance :)


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