Being a man of high moral standards and religious convictions, I saved myself for marriage. When I met my wife she said that she was doing the same. On our wedding night I realized that she was not fully intact. She claims to have busted her hymen while fishing for Opilio Crab in the Bering Sea. She says that she slipped on deck, I never even knew she was a crab fisherman. Is this plausible?
Please help with this as it has been bothering me for our last ten years of marriage.
Were you really able to keep it in your pants until your wedding night?…If so was it everything you expected it to be? Are you still married to that person? If divorced or widowed how has your lifestyle changed, are you celibate, remarried, let loose, what? If remarried did you have sex with that person before you married them?
I’m a 19-year-old college girl, and for personal and religious reasons (I’m Christian), I’ve committed to remaining a virgin until my wedding night. I still want to date now, because naturally my body is encouraging me to have sex, and I want very much to fall in love and move toward that wedding night. The only trouble is that it seems most guys are accustomed to getting sex much earlier in a relationship than I’m willing to provide it, and I’m worried they’ll all get snatched up by girls who put out sooner.
Also, I hear so much talk about wanting to ensure "sexual compatibility" before marriage. This doesn’t really make sense to me because I’m thinking that if we have compatible sex drives, as well as similar morals and desires when it comes to sex (all of which we can find out just by talking), and we both have all functioning parts, there can’t be any real sexual incompatibility. Of course, I’m a virgin, so if I’m wrong on this, do tell. My point being that many people consider premarital sex common, and even practical.
So here’s the thing: I want a man who will respect my desire to save sex for marriage, who will be willing to marry without a "test run," and who will be patient enough to work with me on the honeymoon until I’m able to please him sexually. Are they still out there? If so, where can I find them? Are there any men on Y!A who are also waiting?
greatprincemichael, that was completely unhelpful. I’m already aware that most people in our society engage in premarital sex. If you read the question, I’m looking for someone to help me live up to my personal standards, not to scoff at them. A conservative church has not forced these values on me; I have chosen them myself based on my own personal interpretation of the Bible, and based on what I do and don’t want to experience in my life.
Thanks to everyone else for the wonderful answers! I really appreciate the suggestions, the encouragement, the personal experience, and the humour!
I have recently become engaged to my fiance. We would like to get married on a date this summer (which is special to us) which is approximately 4 mos. away. We are planning on having a destination wedding, in a neighboring state, with only parents, grandparents & siblings attending. Because our engagement is so short, we have (understandably) been finding it hard & stressful to book a reception site, find a DJ etc… to have a marriage celebration, for just after we return from our honeymoon. I personally think that it is tacky & odd to celebrate 3-6 mos later (which is when places would start to have availability in our area). What are some thoughts on having a one year marriage celebration for all of our friends and family to gather together and celebrate our joys of our first year? We are an established couple in our late 20s and do not need gifts, showers etc… and will probably not be registering for such. We also do not want to wait until next summer as we have been together for sometime, and are saving ourselves until our wedding night.
This is not a traditional wedding and therefor does not follow traditional wedding etiquette. This is a destination wedding…where there are no clearly established etiquette rules. I want this day to truly be ours and make the both of us happy…I don’t want to follow "etiquette" to please others, rather than ourselves. I am not looking for whether or not this follows etiquette…just what peoples overall thoughts are.
Thank You
Thank you for all of the positive comments and advice so far.
Yeah…I really don’t want it to look like a "second wedding" and understand that it is not considered a reception after the wedding day. I don’t care about the showers, bachelorette parties etc… although I am not sure how my friends will feel…and they may decide to still do it anyway 
I do not plan to wear my wedding dress to the one year party, if we do go through with this plan. I do just want to be able to make friends & extended family feel included in the process and be able to gather together to celebrate =D
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