Why do people insist that I have low self esteem and that something must be wrong with me? I admit I’ve made some mistakes, and that maybe I’m a little slutty. I’ve done things other girls wouldn’t do, and maybe that makes me stupid too. But I admit it, and I’m honest.
I broke up with my ex-bf even though I still love him because I finally figured out he wasn’t good for me and was using me after I stupidly agreed to a gangbang. I thought it would make him love me more, but he just got meaner. He says he cares but I couldn’t take it anymore and broke up with him even though it hurts and maybe that makes me a bad person too. I tried dating a lot of different guys after that, but I always seem to attract guys just like him, and it just made my slutty reputation worse. Add that I can’t have kids of my own and I know that no decent guy will ever want me. It’s not low self esteem, it’s just honesty. I’m the kind of girl guys will only ever see as someone to have fun with.
I know I’m broken and I’m trying to accept who and what I am and what my life has become. Why do people insist I have no self respect? What do they want, me to say cheer about my stupid mistakes? To be proud and smile that everyday someone calls me a whore, a slut or worthless?
It hurt when people called me those names back when I was in highschool and it wasn’t true. Somehow now that it is, it hurts more. I’m trying to be good, and I’m trying to embrace who I am, but people insisting I’m broken inside and hate myself just makes it even harder to like who I am. Why can’t people see that?
I posted this earlier in the wrong forum. I hope this is where it’s supposed to go.
I got my ex-girlfriend back after she dumped me two years ago. I finally wrote her a very long love letter confessing my feelings for her. She called me up and we started talking, making plans to meet,etc and she was giving me another chance..until I blew it again!She dumped me again!! She is furious with me and never wants to talk to me again. She thinks im crazy and bi-polar. Its a mess. Here is what happen. This other girl who is my friend helped me write the love letter..well she was helping me on what to say to her during the week I was swooning her back into my life…well one night my ex and I had a talk .She told me she was intimate with this guy then,another guy. I got so mad i wrote an email to my friend saying my ex was a whore and tramp. I wanted revenge.I accidently sent the email to my ex! She read it and freaked! She dumped me again! I feel devastated. Two years of trying to get her back and my jealousies got the best of me. I am swooning her again. Any suggestions?
Supposed all of this were true about my married friend…
He says he loves his wife but they have a crooked relationship. He says he’s staying mainly for the kids. He has a son who lives with him but his mother lives in another state so he can’t leave him. He is asking me to hold on and be with him until his son graduates from high school in a few years.
I do not want to be the cause of a family falling apart nor do I want to hurt his wife, but I am in love with this man. He is staying mainly for his son. He admitted to loving her (of course, they share a child and have been together for years), but says that isn’t enough. I make him feel the way she can’t (he says). Its not about the sex, and I know I’m the only one because we spend all of our free time either on the phone or together (he calls me from work and we talk for hours). He said their sex life is at a halt. We’ve had sex a few times, but I expressed to him that I couldn’t do this and he said, let’s take the sex out of it. He asked me to come stay with him while she’s out of town, and travel to CA with him next month.
He says he married for the wrong reasons…more so out of pressure from her family. I really feel he’s sincere.
Should I walk away? I feel he is my soulmate. Is it always wrong, considering its mainly for the kids and he will leave anyway once his son graduates from school? Is it ever okay to do this, you think? I’m not lookin for a "co-signer" or someone to justify my wrong, but I’m just curious if anyone thinks its wrong to date a man who is married, but really not there for her, but more so for the kids.
And before some of you start with the name calling (homewrecker, whore), remember, you aren’t perfect either. I always vowed to never date a married man, and kept my distance from him, but he pursued me, and I fell in love with him. It wasn’t planned. I have never done this before and I’ll never do it again. He just swept me off my feet, but I know not to allow another married man get this close, because I don’t want to do this again, if this doesn’t work out.
he had been with for over three years. He decided to leave the relationship and live in a state with no family of his own to be with a girl ( with a jail record and who is known in her neighborhood as easy) and her child over his own flesh. He chooses to see his daughters once a month, if he could ,instead of being a constant father figure as he is for another man’s child. After being there for his first born (who is born on his birthday) for seven months of her life, he now says he was not ready 2b a father. What type of statement is that if you are viewed as a provider (bought a home for this girl and her child) for another man’s child? Do you understand this? Would you neglect your own flesh to be apart of someone elses? Men please let me know.
Ranger D you must be the person whom im talking about. Again I just had two babies with months of each other. Again, our relationship should hold no bearing on his relationship with his babies. You seem to be guilty of neglecting your children but thanks for your immature and not knowing what ur talking about answer.
I am 100% positive he can not stand me and he never did. Weather his is happy is questionable but i guess you think you know he is. Jealousy over my babies of course but you will never be apart of their lives WHORE
To superKitten, I read read questions you wrote and I see you’re crazy. But thank you for not knowing what ur talking about.
Again to super Kitten, you are obviously hurting to be so hurtful to someone you do not know. I see many of your questions you ask is about sucide. Your anger explains why you are suicidal. You do not know me to judge me. If your experience with men has made you bitter then instead of asking about suicide see a psyciatrist. You have ABSOLUTELY no idea what you’re talking about. No one is perfect but a person’s imperfection should not allow others to treat them badly especially innocent babies. Your imperfections got you asking questions about suicide.
SuperKitten, what are you talking about. You have no idea what you are talking about! The other person’s child is NOT his, he just met her and her child is older so please do not talk what you do not know. You are talking about me and did not address the question. You have no clue what you’re talking about and I did not pick on Ranger, I just enlightened him further about his situation is not the same because his kids are older. You obviously have no problem with adultery, which they are both doing, and you obviously have no problem with children getting hurt for self-fish reasons. You started with the attack, look at your first sentence. I will not stoop to your level because what I have learned thru it all is if someone is being cruel, do not minimize yourself to be like them, just get rid of the negative energy. Believe me when I say, if you knew it all you would be sanging a different tune. I do not have to specify to you.You gave your answer and I appreciate it.
you speak of death and suicide and your energy is does not fit mine. You do not have to be a horrible person to be treated horrible. There are good people who get used , scamed and mistreated by horribe people.
One last thing "super kitten" my "stupid question" maybe a personal questions for others. Like the say in school, no question is stupid question because someone might have the same one in mind. Again just reading your Q&A and your comment here, you are a bitter person and a hypercrit. If you felt the question was "stupid" then why answer it? One might consider your questions stupid and a bit crazy. Should they judge you w/o knowing what they are talking about? You’re just one of many so I will ignore you, because as I said, I learned my lesson about minimize my character to stoop to levels beneath me.
Again you are messing the point. It shows you need to stop passing judgement without knowing everything. I asked a specific question, period. I did not have to tell anyone that he left me with a 7 mnth old and 3 months pregnant or even that he allowed our house to foreclose and left me and his infant daughter w/o adequate housing all because he says he went into something w/o being ready. His reasons or new life has no bearing on the one he created. They should be erased because he made a "mistake". I should not have to explain how her refuses to pay child support because he feels they do not need that much and is now questioning his daughter’s parternity because he feels it will delay his support order not caring how it may one day make her feel. Before you judge me, yes we argued but I never cheated nor disrespected him. My attack on this "innocent girl" as you put it is just because she stepped foot in my home while I went to visit my mother. At the time I was clueless.
Even if I was the type to miss with a married man, I would never step foot in another woman’s home nor would I make it difficult for him to see his kids if I could not be present. Again you made judgement calls that 1-had nothing to do with the ques. asked and 2- did not need explaining. We are in court and I have moved on. You saying I want him back, where was that in the ques? You saying the other girl kid is his, when we just moved to the state he met her in, where is that asked in my question, and her treating him better because I was horrible to him, where was that asked. If you really want to know his own family members are the ones who helped me see he was living a double life. My response to Ranger was due to his comment of my weight, when I specified his 18mnth old and 2mnth old.Do the math. Like my mother use to tell me " stop and think before speaking" .
running another woman down? that only fits if I am making false comments. Again talking what you do not know. She is far from a woman and anyone who KNOWS THE SITUATION says the same even those who are related to him. Please stop wasting your time insulting those you have no clue about. My reason for bringing up her true characteristics were for MEN to address based on her qualities. It was not said out of "jealousy" or making false statements. I have no reason to be jealous of her. She’s not even on my level.
Date: Fri, 01 Jun 2007 13:27:36 -0400
From: "June McF
To: "M PIERRE-LOUIS" <mpierre_louis0827@yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: We miss you
You are better off without him. Your kids deserve to be love and cared
about. That paternity test is just to stall for time. I believe in
carma. What you do comes back to you. He will be very sorry for doing
this. I’m just sorry you have to suffer in the mean time.
This is a real email from an old neighbor who knew both of us and his own close netword says the same. I have no other comment to you but stop attacking people without knowing what you are talking about. Answer the question at hand. If you need to be rude because "you feel the question asked is "stupid" then use your intelligence towards questions that are suitable for you. thank you for telling others that it is ok to mistreat people, even those who are innocent for totally selfish and unjust reasons.
