my fiance and I got engaged 8 months ago. Back track we been dating off and on for 5 yrs.. Hes had some serious commitment issues. He is 35 now and still lives wit his mom. When he broke up with me the 1st time he had gotten a girl pregnant adn tried to mak it work out with her. Well she ended up leaving him and thats when he wanted to get back together with me. He promsed that he realized how much i mean to him, how much he loves me and wants to get married. So I got back together with him…. believing that he was ready to commit. Well his baby mama wasnt allowed to know about me, i wasnt allowed near his son, it was like he was lving to lives. So he got into arguments about that. BEcause i wanted a committed serious relationship and i wanted to create a relationship with his son. I wanted to be apart of his life. So I ended up getting pregnant and nothing changed he still treated me like i was some friend, I wasnt allowed near him when his son was around, his Xgf wasnt allowed to know i existed, Holiday came and I wasnt allowed at his house until the baby left. So I ended up not having the baby. We broke up for a few months… and got back together… he again promised me everything I wanted and said he knew he had issues that he needed to work on… I believed him again and stuck by him. Well things didnt change and one day we got into an argument and he just stopped calling me and stop talking to me, no explanation, no break up nothing. So 2-3 months go by and he decides to call me and we hang out, we have sex and thats it… i dont hear from him until the next week when he wants to hang out and drink. So we hang out and i didnt hear from him for 2 wks after that. So he wrote to me 2 wks after not hearing from him asking how i was and all that. So i ignored it, at this point im done with being this girl that he just uses basically. He lies and tells me what i want to hear but never actually does it. So I didnt answer him, But then my stupid idiot self wrote him back. I love him, i missed him and just wanted to see him. So we hang out a few time after that. And i told him I wasnt going to sit around anymore just being friends with benefits. If thats what he wants then fine… i will be dating and meeting other people and if i meet someone who is a good person and i can have a future then i will be that person… I was honest with him. After that about 2 wks later he says hes ready to get married and commit he loves me and doesnt wantt o lose me. So we got engaged. But things still didnt change. He told his baby mama hes engaged and i would be around the baby (she told him once ur engaged that girl can be around the kid) so she said fine whatever… but then made a new rule… i wasnt allowed in the car with him when he picks up his kid. He agreed…. I wasnt happy …. I thought this shit would stop. Her controlling rules were so ridiculous and for osme reason he listened to her and went by them. This rule has nothing to do with her son it has to do with her controlling rules. So he told me to suck it up just like everything else i been sucking up the last 5 yrs. He told me just to be happy shes ok with us being engaged and wait a few months and i can be int he car with him. So here we are 8 months later and he tells me that he wants to start trying for a baby… and once im pregnant we can get married an move in together. He loves me and wants to give me everything he couldnt when i was pregnant the last time. So i was so happy that he finally was willing to commit and have a family. I was shocked. So I got pregnant that month! He was happy about it, we were happy. I tried talking to him about the wedding date… and he always got so wierd when i would talk about it, my mom would talk about it , or his mom. But we finally made the date it was going to be JULY 17. So 3 wks ago… we got into an argument. I was with him and his son all day… and he had to bring him home…. he was going to drop me off and i asked why i couldnt go for the ride. OK months later pregnant, moving intogether and getting married. I really thought the car thing wouldnt be an issue anymore. So he got mad at me, turned it around on me, and we broke up. Over an argument. So a few days later i waited til he was cooled off (because this is nothing new we break up and then speak when hes ready) i talk to him about getting back together and having the family and marriage we planned. So he said no he was sick of my complaining and my bullshit. My bullshit if anything i should be telling you screw u after all this shit you been pulling. So he broke up our marriage date… adn he broke off being together, moving in together everything we planned. Over an argument. I think its just his way to getting out of committing again! He didnt call me for a whole week in half and then finally did to see how i was. So I asked if he wanted to come to a dr apptment with me… and he said fine. He comes, we talked we were friendly etc. So he asked
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my fiance and I got engaged 8 months ago. Back track we been dating off and on for 5 yrs.. Hes had some serious commitment issues. He is 35 now and still lives wit his mom. When he broke up with me the 1st time he had gotten a girl pregnant adn tried to mak it work out with her. Well she ended up leaving him and thats when he wanted to get back together with me. He promsed that he realized how much i mean to him, how much he loves me and wants to get married. So I got back together with him…. believing that he was ready to commit. Well his baby mama wasnt allowed to know about me, i wasnt allowed near his son, it was like he was lving to lives. So he got into arguments about that. BEcause i wanted a committed serious relationship and i wanted to create a relationship with his son. I wanted to be apart of his life. So I ended up getting pregnant and nothing changed he still treated me like i was some friend, I wasnt allowed near him when his son was around, his Xgf wasnt allowed to know i existed, Holiday came and I wasnt allowed at his house until the baby left. So I ended up not having the baby. We broke up for a few months… and got back together… he again promised me everything I wanted and said he knew he had issues that he needed to work on… I believed him again and stuck by him. Well things didnt change and one day we got into an argument and he just stopped calling me and stop talking to me, no explanation, no break up nothing. So 2-3 months go by and he decides to call me and we hang out, we have sex and thats it… i dont hear from him until the next week when he wants to hang out and drink. So we hang out and i didnt hear from him for 2 wks after that. So he wrote to me 2 wks after not hearing from him asking how i was and all that. So i ignored it, at this point im done with being this girl that he just uses basically. He lies and tells me what i want to hear but never actually does it. So I didnt answer him, But then my stupid idiot self wrote him back. I love him, i missed him and just wanted to see him. So we hang out a few time after that. And i told him I wasnt going to sit around anymore just being friends with benefits. If thats what he wants then fine… i will be dating and meeting other people and if i meet someone who is a good person and i can have a future then i will be that person… I was honest with him. After that about 2 wks later he says hes ready to get married and commit he loves me and doesnt wantt o lose me. So we got engaged. But things still didnt change. He told his baby mama hes engaged and i would be around the baby (she told him once ur engaged that girl can be around the kid) so she said fine whatever… but then made a new rule… i wasnt allowed in the car with him when he picks up his kid. He agreed…. I wasnt happy …. I thought this **** would stop. Her controlling rules were so ridiculous and for osme reason he listened to her and went by them. This rule has nothing to do with her son it has to do with her controlling rules. So he told me to suck it up just like everything else i been sucking up the last 5 yrs. He told me just to be happy shes ok with us being engaged and wait a few months and i can be int he car with him. So here we are 8 months later and he tells me that he wants to start trying for a baby… and once im pregnant we can get married an move in together. He loves me and wants to give me everything he couldnt when i was pregnant the last time. So i was so happy that he finally was willing to commit and have a family. I was shocked. So I got pregnant that month! He was happy about it, we were happy. I tried talking to him about the wedding date… and he always got so wierd when i would talk about it, my mom would talk about it , or his mom. But we finally made the date it was going to be JULY 17. So 3 wks ago… we got into an argument. I was with him and his son all day… and he had to bring him home…. he was going to drop me off and i asked why i couldnt go for the ride. OK months later pregnant, moving intogether and getting married. I really thought the car thing wouldnt be an issue anymore. So he got mad at me, turned it around on me, and we broke up. Over an argument. So a few days later i waited til he was cooled off (because this is nothing new we break up and then speak when hes ready) i talk to him about getting back together and having the family and marriage we planned. So he said no he was sick of my complaining and my bullshit. My bullshit if anything i should be telling you screw u after all this **** you been pulling. So he broke up our marriage date… adn he broke off being together, moving in together everything we planned. Over an argument. I think its just his way to getting out of committing again! He didnt call me for a whole week in half and then finally did to see how i was. So I asked if he wanted to come to a dr apptment with me… and he said fine. He comes, we talked we were friendly etc. So he asked
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my fiance and I got engaged 8 months ago. Back track we been dating off and on for 5 yrs.. Hes had some serious commitment issues. He is 35 now and still lives wit his mom. When he broke up with me the 1st time he had gotten a girl pregnant adn tried to mak it work out with her. Well she ended up leaving him and thats when he wanted to get back together with me. He promsed that he realized how much i mean to him, how much he loves me and wants to get married. So I got back together with him…. believing that he was ready to commit. Well his baby mama wasnt allowed to know about me, i wasnt allowed near his son, it was like he was lving to lives. So he got into arguments about that. BEcause i wanted a committed serious relationship and i wanted to create a relationship with his son. I wanted to be apart of his life. So I ended up getting pregnant and nothing changed he still treated me like i was some friend, I wasnt allowed near him when his son was around, his Xgf wasnt allowed to know i existed, Holiday came and I wasnt allowed at his house until the baby left. So I ended up not having the baby. We broke up for a few months… and got back together… he again promised me everything I wanted and said he knew he had issues that he needed to work on… I believed him again and stuck by him. Well things didnt change and one day we got into an argument and he just stopped calling me and stop talking to me, no explanation, no break up nothing. So 2-3 months go by and he decides to call me and we hang out, we have sex and thats it… i dont hear from him until the next week when he wants to hang out and drink. So we hang out and i didnt hear from him for 2 wks after that. So he wrote to me 2 wks after not hearing from him asking how i was and all that. So i ignored it, at this point im done with being this girl that he just uses basically. He lies and tells me what i want to hear but never actually does it. So I didnt answer him, But then my stupid idiot self wrote him back. I love him, i missed him and just wanted to see him. So we hang out a few time after that. And i told him I wasnt going to sit around anymore just being friends with benefits. If thats what he wants then fine… i will be dating and meeting other people and if i meet someone who is a good person and i can have a future then i will be that person… I was honest with him. After that about 2 wks later he says hes ready to get married and commit he loves me and doesnt wantt o lose me. So we got engaged. But things still didnt change. He told his baby mama hes engaged and i would be around the baby (she told him once ur engaged that girl can be around the kid) so she said fine whatever… but then made a new rule… i wasnt allowed in the car with him when he picks up his kid. He agreed…. I wasnt happy …. I thought this **** would stop. Her controlling rules were so ridiculous and for osme reason he listened to her and went by them. This rule has nothing to do with her son it has to do with her controlling rules. So he told me to suck it up just like everything else i been sucking up the last 5 yrs. He told me just to be happy shes ok with us being engaged and wait a few months and i can be int he car with him. So here we are 8 months later and he tells me that he wants to start trying for a baby… and once im pregnant we can get married an move in together. He loves me and wants to give me everything he couldnt when i was pregnant the last time. So i was so happy that he finally was willing to commit and have a family. I was shocked. So I got pregnant that month! He was happy about it, we were happy. I tried talking to him about the wedding date… and he always got so wierd when i would talk about it, my mom would talk about it , or his mom. But we finally made the date it was going to be JULY 17. So 3 wks ago… we got into an argument. I was with him and his son all day… and he had to bring him home…. he was going to drop me off and i asked why i couldnt go for the ride. OK months later pregnant, moving intogether and getting married. I really thought the car thing wouldnt be an issue anymore. So he got mad at me, turned it around on me, and we broke up. Over an argument. So a few days later i waited til he was cooled off (because this is nothing new we break up and then speak when hes ready) i talk to him about getting back together and having the family and marriage we planned. So he said no he was sick of my complaining and my bullshit. My bullshit if anything i should be telling you screw u after all this **** you been pulling. So he broke up our marriage date… adn he broke off being together, moving in together everything we planned. Over an argument. I think its just his way to getting out of committing again! He didnt call me for a whole week in half and then finally did to see how i was. So I asked if he wanted to come to a dr apptment with me… and he said fine. He comes, we talked we were friendly etc. So he asked
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my fiance and I got engaged 8 months ago. Back track we been dating off and on for 5 yrs.. Hes had some serious commitment issues. He is 35 now and still lives wit his mom. When he broke up with me the 1st time he had gotten a girl pregnant adn tried to mak it work out with her. Well she ended up leaving him and thats when he wanted to get back together with me. He promsed that he realized how much i mean to him, how much he loves me and wants to get married. So I got back together with him…. believing that he was ready to commit. Well his baby mama wasnt allowed to know about me, i wasnt allowed near his son, it was like he was lving to lives. So he got into arguments about that. BEcause i wanted a committed serious relationship and i wanted to create a relationship with his son. I wanted to be apart of his life. So I ended up getting pregnant and nothing changed he still treated me like i was some friend, I wasnt allowed near him when his son was around, his Xgf wasnt allowed to know i existed, Holiday came and I wasnt allowed at his house until the baby left. So I ended up not having the baby. We broke up for a few months… and got back together… he again promised me everything I wanted and said he knew he had issues that he needed to work on… I believed him again and stuck by him. Well things didnt change and one day we got into an argument and he just stopped calling me and stop talking to me, no explanation, no break up nothing. So 2-3 months go by and he decides to call me and we hang out, we have sex and thats it… i dont hear from him until the next week when he wants to hang out and drink. So we hang out and i didnt hear from him for 2 wks after that. So he wrote to me 2 wks after not hearing from him asking how i was and all that. So i ignored it, at this point im done with being this girl that he just uses basically. He lies and tells me what i want to hear but never actually does it. So I didnt answer him, But then my stupid idiot self wrote him back. I love him, i missed him and just wanted to see him. So we hang out a few time after that. And i told him I wasnt going to sit around anymore just being friends with benefits. If thats what he wants then fine… i will be dating and meeting other people and if i meet someone who is a good person and i can have a future then i will be that person… I was honest with him. After that about 2 wks later he says hes ready to get married and commit he loves me and doesnt wantt o lose me. So we got engaged. But things still didnt change. He told his baby mama hes engaged and i would be around the baby (she told him once ur engaged that girl can be around the kid) so she said fine whatever… but then made a new rule… i wasnt allowed in the car with him when he picks up his kid. He agreed…. I wasnt happy …. I thought this shit would stop. Her controlling rules were so ridiculous and for osme reason he listened to her and went by them. This rule has nothing to do with her son it has to do with her controlling rules. So he told me to suck it up just like everything else i been sucking up the last 5 yrs. He told me just to be happy shes ok with us being engaged and wait a few months and i can be int he car with him. So here we are 8 months later and he tells me that he wants to start trying for a baby… and once im pregnant we can get married an move in together. He loves me and wants to give me everything he couldnt when i was pregnant the last time. So i was so happy that he finally was willing to commit and have a family. I was shocked. So I got pregnant that month! He was happy about it, we were happy. I tried talking to him about the wedding date… and he always got so wierd when i would talk about it, my mom would talk about it , or his mom. But we finally made the date it was going to be JULY 17. So 3 wks ago… we got into an argument. I was with him and his son all day… and he had to bring him home…. he was going to drop me off and i asked why i couldnt go for the ride. OK months later pregnant, moving intogether and getting married. I really thought the car thing wouldnt be an issue anymore. So he got mad at me, turned it around on me, and we broke up. Over an argument. So a few days later i waited til he was cooled off (because this is nothing new we break up and then speak when hes ready) i talk to him about getting back together and having the family and marriage we planned. So he said no he was sick of my complaining and my bullshit. My bullshit if anything i should be telling you screw u after all this shit you been pulling. So he broke up our marriage date… adn he broke off being together, moving in together everything we planned. Over an argument. I think its just his way to getting out of committing again! He didnt call me for a whole week in half and then finally did to see how i was. So I asked if he wanted to come to a dr apptment with me… and he said fine. He comes, we talked we were friendly etc. So he asked
So he asked me i wanted to hang out at his house afterward. And i said no very nicely… i did not feel comfortable hanging out as buddies after he just broke of our marriage and our family. And of course he someone turns that around on me being disrepectful and immature for saying no. Like im not allowed to be upset and uncomfortable hanging out. Hes called maybe 4 times in the last 3 weeks and is just so cold. I dont know how u can be in love with someone make all these future plans and so easily let it all go and be so mean and selfish and uncaring.
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My Sister-in-law called off the wedding 3 wks before the date. My whole family was supposed to be in the wedding. We had a lot of time, emotion & money invested in it. Anyway, I purchased a Mixer for 5 for her shower. She called off the wedding a week after the shower. THREE months later I asked for the gift back since my receipt was expiring. Her parents dropped off the gift. Over the next few parties, she gave my entire family the cold shoulder! I finally sent her an email to ask her if everything was ok? She said that I was being very insensitive to her situation & selfish for asking for the gift. She took a dig at my family & also said that I spread rumors about why the wedding was called off. I called her to see if we could straighten it all out & she did not respond. Finally sent her another email saying that I was sorry for asking for the gift back & that I was hurt by her accusations & comments about my family. Now she isn’t talking to us? Was I wrong?
Also, wanted to add that its 8 months after she called it off and she is dating someone new and STILL hasn’t returned the shower gifts to everyone. Besides my 5 mixer, I also pitched in 0 for a gift from the bridal party. Also what about our engagement party gifts as well??? Still haven’t been reimbursed for the 0 bridesmaid dress, my son’s tux (which I had to buy since he was so small) and my hub’s tux deposit. Besides the money, I don’t understand why she is ignoring my children (ages 5 & 2- one of which is her godson). She hasn’t come for his bday and now she isn’t coming for xmas as well. Besides wanting to know if I was in the wrong? What should I do to make this all go away?? I have already apologized for asking for the gift back… what more can I do??? I also asked her mother (my in-law) to talk to her and try to smooth it out – explain that its important for the kids. Still nothing.
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