He’s Torn Between Leaving And Staying: How Do I Make Him Stay?

He’s Torn Between Leaving And Staying:

How Do I Make Him Stay?

My boyfriend and I broke up less than two days ago. I love him more than anything in the world, but I made our relationship very difficult because of my emotional instabilities.

I will do anything to get him back.

I am going to counseling to deal with my issues (they apply to my life in general, not just to my relationship with him), I’m reading self-help books, and I’m giving him as much space and time as he needs. I’m not forcing him to come back, but I hope more than anything that he does.

There really is no one else for me, and I think that I can really make him happy once I become a better person. But I want to be a better person not just for him, but for myself, for everyone else I love.

How can I convince him to give me another chance? He loves me dearly, I know. He told m yesterday (he sought me out himself) that he’s miserable without me, but the thought of getting back together doesn’t make him happy either, because I hurt him so much. He hugged me for half a minute, kissed me very passionately, told me he loved me, and then said “I shouldn’t have done that.”

He’s torn between leaving and staying, and I just want him to stay, to just give me another chance to make him happy like he made me happy.

I’m leaving him completely alone so that he can make a decision on his own. I’m trying to exemplify the person I’m promising to be in the future by being supremely kind, understanding, and emotionally stable. I’m a determined person, and I really can change. Not just for his happiness, but for my own.

I even wrote a letter to him explaining how committed I am to making us work, how even if he chooses not to stay, I’ll find a way to repay him for the wonderful things he’s done to me, that I’ll love him forever (I haven’t sent it to him yet. Don’t know if I should).

But is there a way to convince him to stay, to give me a chance to make him happy? Am I doing the right thing now? I don’t want to push him, because I want him to be happy and secure in his decision. But can I convince him somehow without pushing him?

Oh and we’ve had some fantastically good times, too. We both know this. He’s just overwhelmed at the moment by the not-so-good ones. All I can think about are the happy times, and how I want to make them happen again.

Any advice for me?


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1. I had the magical ability to go anywhere in the world by flushing myself down a toilet & traveling through the plumbing system at light speed. I just had to concentrate on the address & repeat it along with the word "travel" over & over whilst standing in front of any toilet, & soon enough I was able to just dive in like you would off of a diving board & go right down the drain. (cont…)

2. I’m in the shower, & there’s a 15ft stripper pole going from floor to ceiling right in the middle of it. The soap is on a shelf 12ft up so I have to climb to reach it. It’s wet, slippery & very difficult, so I keep shimmying up and sliding down. Making no progress, but I start to get sexually aroused b/c I’ve got my legs wrapped around it, and you know…I won’t be graphic but it gets a bit erotic/noisy & then suddenly there’s someone looking through the glass shower door at me going "wtf are you doing?" and I’m mortified. Felt like a kid caught at something naughty by a parent. (cont…)
(both continued…)

1. Early on things went smooth & I was alone, but the second part of the dream was different. I found myself in a public bathroom w/ 2 other women who had the same power as me, & we were in a frantic rush to get into the toilets & go somewhere, as if we were being chased by something & needed to escape. I had problems trying to stuff my backpack down the drain ahead of me (which I hadn’t done before), & I couldn’t concentrate enough so the "spell" wasn’t working & I felt afraid. I do remember repeating the address though, and it was full of sixes. The #6 was very distinct in my mind.

2. The person was unknown to me but I got the feeling she had been woken by my ruckus & was annoyed. It’s not important who it was – roommate, houseguest, etc. Point is the shock it gave me & the shame/embarrassment it made me feel afterwards were quite palpable.

That’s all I remember, but I feel like the two dreams are connected b/c of the common bathroom setting maybe. Any ideas?


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