And then they yell at you for coming in, excuse me for thinking nobody was in there considering the door was wide open
I am with my boyfriend for 6 months now and we are getting very serious. I love him to death and hes really a great guy except he drinks… alot. I am 19 and I am uncomfortable with the fact he goes to bars and drinks all night with his buddies at least once a week. Since most of the bars I cannot go to becuz I’m under 21 I feel really weird about it. I get extremely upset. I’ve been trying to relax and not yell at him but inside i just wanna scream. We’ve fought alot about it and i don’t want to argue anymore but don’t want to leave him. I need help on ways to cope with this cuz my emotions are strong with this
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Ok so im 16 years old about to be 17. I love my dad because he’s my dad but i don’t really like him as a person. I think he is annoying and overall tough to be around. (No this isn’t because I’m a teenager and we all hate our parents).
When i was younger i used to be afraid of him, it’s not like he would beat me, but he was always so critical of me and would yell at me for the most miniscule things, like forgetting to take out the trash and it would always lead to him berating me and telling me that that "he asks so little of me and does so much for me so why can’t i just give him that little in return" (which i guess is fair but it usually came with an absurd overreaction and me usually crying). I used to come home from school and only hope he was working late so that i could be asleep by the time he came home because I was worried that every conversation i had with him would lead to him breaking me down. He knew exactly what to say so that not only could i not respond with any viable rebuttal but so that i felt so crappy about myself that I wanted to leave home (maybe a little dramatic, but the things he said made me think about if everything would be better of if i were dead).
Since then i have slowly grown up with this fear of my father which has gradually evolved into a dislike, resentment, or even hatred. (why would i want to be around someone im afraid of?). The only problem is that he really does love me and would do anything for me. He has always supported me in everything i’ve done and only wants the best for me, but I just can’t stand to be around him because i feel like everything leads to him pointing out something i F*** up on which ALWAYS ends poorly for me. The real issue here lies in the fact that over the past few months he has been introduced to the news that i don’t really like him. We’ve had various conversations about it and they always end in the whole situation seemingly being my fault. He has taken serious steps towards trying to fix my view of him, but It’s just not that simple. However he has made it abundantly clear that he is trying, which i do see, but i’ve essentially done nothing on my part to resolve the issue, mainly because i’m not sure if i want to.
He’s noticed that and taken it as a sign that i don’t want him in my life anymore, that i’m selfish and that all he does is give and all i do is take. I don’t want our relationship to end because I know that would kill both of us and I fear i may have pushed it too far. Please Help! Thoughts? Comments?
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So part of our musical group have this master plan, but it involves a very public "break up " Scene where I have to start yelling at my boyfriend to get the attention of some bystanders.. We’re just having problems coming up with something legit to yell at each other. So any ideas are welcome.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. We have been through a lot. We are so close, we are best friends. We are everything to each other but lately we have been having a lot of fights. There have been several instances where i lied to him about my past. Every time i eventually came clean. I lied completely out of fear though i know that does not make it ok. I just wanted to avoid fights. Now he has lost trust in me. I have realized that by lying i really hurt him and i never want to cause him pain again and i know i will never lie to him again. Now i just need to fix the damage that I have done. The problem in that i am leaving for college in 2 weeks and he is very nervous that I will meet someone else. I feel that I will not because i believe that he is the one. I feel this way because i know in my heart that i love every part of him, i see his imperfections as things that make him who is and just more reasons to love him. I would do anything to support him and provide for him. I want to work through the fighting and get back to being good I am just not sure how to gain his trust back and reassure him that he is the one. Help?I also want to know how we can ease the fighting. Sometimes he gets really mad because I say i know i wont find anyone else and he doesnt want to believe me and then get hurt. All his emotions channel into anger (He is a marine and has been trained not to show anything else) He will call me names and yell> but then afterwards he feels horrible> i know he doesnt mean what he says and he has just put up a wall but idk how to break past it and show him that he can be emotional in front of me. I just want to be able to stop the fights to relieve both of our stress.
please don’t say just dump him.
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