Why don't men leave their wives for good when they cheat on them? Do women feel "even" If they cheat also?
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Does cheatting to get even make you feel better "probably not" you might feel ok at the time, but you will probably have that sick in the gut feeling when you stop and think about what you did.
As for why men don’t leave?
Men and women have 5 basic needs in a relationship. right now you may be taking care of 2 or even 3 of them but he has Unmet needs that he took to an out side affair. As for why he can’t leave right at this time his "needs are in balance" He still loves you, but because he can not find fulfillment at home. he probably feels it’s ok to have the affair so he does not upset you."
sorry no one ever said Men emotional state made sence.
What probably happen was he stopped filling one or more of your 5 basic needs, and in retaliation you stopped filling one or more of "his needs". it’s a process that happens orver time and most couples don’t even realize what happen until the affair happens.
The hard part will come IF you choose to try saving the marriage. HE probably still loves you. but is feeling neglected and the other woman see’s a good man and is trying to steal him from you. The real choice comes from you.
If you want to repair the marriage. Seek counciling. Your going to need the help rebuilding the trust he has squandered. You will also need the help making sure he is telling the truth because once in counciling first you have to remove the other woman, and then you need to fill the need that the other woman is not taking care of. You also need to understand your needs so you can teach him how to care for your needs. so the problem does not come up again.
God’s Blessing be with your family.
and Good Luck
They should, but they dont cause maybe they feel that they wont find anyone better. THey may feel "even", but really its "evil". Thats what i think.
no they don’t
Most men dont leave their wives for good because:
1) they know what a good wife they have and no other woman would put up with their crap.
2)they want to "have their cake and eat it too"
3)they know full good and well the grass is NOT greener on the other side of the fence.
4)they are too scared because they might realize the person they cheated with is not the person they really wanted to begin with.
Most women probably would feel "even" if they cheated too…but it doesnt make it right.
I think it is because they cheat because something’s wrong in the marriage, but they still feel emotionally tied to their wives, even if the intimacy isn’t there any more, and they don’t feel loved and "understood" and validated. The problem is, their wives may feel the same way and the marriage needs counseling to get past this problem.
Some men "cheat" because the basic imprinted in your DNA instinct is to have sex with more than one female over a lifetime. So first you have to discern whether a man is cheating because he wants more sex or whether he’s cheating because he is really emotionally unhappy in his marriage. Sometimes when a marriage is lacking, men seek out sex with other women because sex is the closest thing they know to try to fulfill their need for real emotional intimacy. The sympathy they feel they aren’t getting from their wives, they think they’re getting from the woman they’re cheating with. A lot of them are afraid of leaving their wives for one reason or another -security, financial reasons, unwillingness to devestate a spouse by leaving her, etc.
There may be some women who feel ‘even’ by cheating, but I think most women feel worse if they try cheating too. It only drives a deeper wedge between the woman and her husband. I think, emotionally speaking, it’s not the sex that either the man or woman really craves more of – it’s that feeling of real intimacy, that connection and assurance that the other person is fully involved in you and cares about you. Sometimes, those feelings get left behind in a marriage and the day to day struggle to get by.
It’s hard as hell to keep a marriage going. Both persons involved have to want it and have to communicate with each other. Otherwise, no go.
Speaking from experience I was cheated on by my husband and it hurt like hell. I stayed with him because I loved him so much. An opportunity came and I had sex with a very close friend of mine and my husband found out about it. Two wrongs do not make a right, but for him to know that I was capable of it really hit home. He is a changed man because of it !
I don’t think so. Cheating is never good, it is never good to hurt another person. And no, I don’t think women feel "even" if they cheat. They probably start out to cheat thinking they’ll get even, but in the end, they probably feel just as guilty as the men do. Hurting someone you supposedly care about is a tough thing to deal with, no matter what the person says.
There is a difference between love and lust. A man may not love a woman that he has cheated with, but did have lust. A man may love his wife and be betrayed by his own lust. This is not an excuse for the behavior, but is a weakness in the man. Once the lust is satisfied, of course, they are always sorry (until the next time), but they love their wife.
Women may feel "even" initially, but may lose part of their self (self respect) when trying to deal with the pain of their of their husband having been unfaithful and their retaliation to that pain.
Men are afraid of starting over. In the end, they look at the life they had spent many years creating and see that it doesn’t measure up to starting over with someone new.