What steps should I take next for restoring a broken relationship with my husband of 2.5 yrs.?
I am from a very strict background. My husband didn’t have a father and his mother was VERY loose and uncaring. He has had a rough upbringing and life. We have had many problems already but we both know we are meant to be and stay together, no matter what. A past "friend" (female and very jealous) lied to him about me to cause a serious problem. He has been "running" ever since. He says he is to blame for the problem anyway, but he can’t seem to get himself together. He quit his job and went away for 8 weeks. We have a 2 yr old and I am 8 months pregnant. I just don’t feel the closeness we used to have. I have offered to do anything he feels he needs to help our situation. He just can’t seem to put one foot in front of the other, even though he says he wants to. He has made attempts but has failed so far. What can/should I do?
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You can’t fix this by yourself. Ask your husband to visit a marriage counselor with you. It would probably be best if you went by yourself for a couple session in order to explain your situation.
It’s hard to say in this situation, but I’m leaning towards giving him a little space to grow up and get over whatever was said to him. If you keep chasing him, most likely he will continue his fickle behavior. Act like you couldn’t care less, Hon. I know it’s hard when you’re pregnant. This is when you need him, but it sounds like he’s letting you down. I’d start going on with my life as if he wasn’t going to be in it. If he wakes up and smells the coffee and came home and straightened up, good…if he didn’t, I’d already be on my way to healing, and moving on with my life. Good luck to you.
He’s a loser, that’s all there’s to it. He has to be willing to fix himself up, you cant do it for him.
Honey, you can’t do it alone. I would enlist the services of a couples therapist.
Wow – Sweetie, you’ve got quite a situation going on. Ok so you have one child together and a child on the way (his right?) He needs to have your support but he needs to get it together before you move back in and get back to the place that’s comfortable for bot of you. Go to counseling with him, date him – if he’s willing. But right now it doesn’t sound like he can support you emotionally or financially and you can’t get to that point for him – he has too on his own. A marriage is whole when the two individuals are whole people first. If you believe in Christ, make God your focus and encourage your husband to do it too. Pray together. Pray for your marriage and your children. Amazing things happen when you pray. God needs to be as much a part of your marriage as each of you are…Good luck and God Bless.
Read the first part of your letter. All you do is make excuses for him. If he loved you,why would he beleive your so called friend and take off for 8 weeks. Think about that. Sorry, but he sounds like a LOSER to me. What do think you should do?