Will she ever love me again?
My wife and I have been married for 16 years and she recently told me that she is not in love with me and hasn’t been for quite some time. She says she wants a separation and she says she doesn’t see us together in the future. We have two teenage children and we love them very much. I have realized the things I have done wrong in our marriage (never cheated, never hit her) and everyday I am dedicated to correcting them. She says that she wants her independence and she wants to focus on her career. I told her that I am proud of her accomplishments at work, ( this is a new line of work for her and she loves it ) and I praise her for it. We talk better than we used to and I still love her with every stitch of my broken heart. I was not a great husband all the time but I know that she loved me not long ago. Our separating feels so wrong but this is what she wants and I am afraid I will never be with the woman that I love again. Is there any hope? Can she ever fall back in love with me?
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Umm… she says that she hasn’t loved you for a very long time, but you say she loved you not long ago. You’re lying to yourself, Buddy. It took a lot for her to tell you that, and she had to know it was going to break your heart when she said it, so I am betting she is telling you how it really is, and you are trying to cope by giving yourself false hope.
She’s already gone. Nothing you can do but let her go. The worst thing you can possibly do is beg because if she has any respect left for you, begging is going to take that away.
make sure she knows this… make sure she knows how much you still love her and want to be with her…
That is really all you can do…
If you have to ask this question, then the answer is most likely no. I would be a bit suspicious about your wife "all of a sudden" saying she hasn’t loved you in quite some time. There is a chance that she may be having an affair.
I would have a private eye look into this. If she is having an affair, you may get away without having to pay alimony. Otherwise, not only will she break your heart but your bank account as well.
No! Move on.
Get to a lawyer
My guess is she already has
wat u need is to give some time to ur relation ship so that u can think over before taking any hasty decision….u can make a temporary separation n try to find out whether u r happy without each others company may be in the end she will realise that wat she has lost in her n she will come back to u….dont worry…everything will be ok..i wish u luck…
I’m sorry to tell you this…but I bet something else is going on for this to have come up so suddenly, especially when she "loves her work" so much and wants to "focus on her work".
I would find out who her contacts are "at work" or "in her line of work"… If you have even a glimmer of suspicion about it, I would not tell her, but would investigate and not until I had gathered all the facts would I discuss it with her.
The minute she thinks you suspect something, you will be the suspicious, jealous control-freak she needs to leave *right now*. (Don’t help her out!)
You didn’t say how old she is, but if you have teenagers, chances are that she is experiencing somewhat of a mid-life crisis and has found someone who makes her feel young and desirable again. I’m sorry. If "nothing has happened" you have a good chance of helping things turn around. If she is committing adultery, you need to decide what your course of action will be. I think any marriage is salvageable under almost any circumstances, especially if you entrust it to God. So, to your question: Yes, she can fall back in love with you. (especially if she gets rid of Joe Blow, the workbuddy.)
You say you’ve made mistakes in your marriage….so have we all. Just your saying that makes me think you’re not the problem—it’s her.
Have you suggested going to a marriage counselor? Sometimes just finding out why one or both of you aren’t happy can help bring resolution or even closure on your marriage. Talk to her and see if that is an option. Good luck.
Not to be mean here but you should believe her when she says she does not love you anymore. She is telling you she has found some one new and you can bet they either work with her in her new career or she met them threw her new job.Her lame excuse for leaving is just to throw you off her cheating ways i bet it won’t be a month after you separate and the truth will be out.. Independence yeah right independence to be with her new lover and don’t be a little wimp puppy and let her take you to the cleaners in the divorce because you still love her and hoping she will come back thats what she is banking on you need to hire a P.I. and a good divorce lawyer and protect yourself later on you will feel better knowing you did not let her make you out to be a fool.
I’d say to recreate the night you proposed. The hormones may be running out, but tell her to stay together for the kids sake. A split household with a grieving father in impressionable years may hurt them badly. Look out for any sudden or new marriages on her side also.