Why don't women leave abusive relationships?
Or where could I find some research about the reason women don’t leave abusive relationships?
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Relationship abusers are often mental and emotional manipulators. They use a cycle of guilt and blame to keep the woman silent. They often project their emotions onto the victim, and make her feel cheap/worthless/etc. They make her feel like it is her fault, so the women often feels powerless to leave.
The mental abuse is a lot more harmful than the physical. While your bruises and breaks will heal, you mental image is so shattered that you cannot perform correctly. They create a cycle of fear and often use threats to keep the woman in "her place". The greatest power of the abuser is his power to manipulate. They will often tell the woman that she did something wrong to deserve the abuse, and that if she tells anyone she will only receive further abuse from him and from other people (cycle of fear) and since she doesn’t want to endure more than she has so, she doesn’t say anything. Not only that, they make the woman dependent on them by often controlling what they can and cant do, often making them stay home (with possible kids) while they earn the money, thus maintaining the "dominant" role. If the woman does work, she is probably under close surveillance by the man. He has probably asked her or forced her to quit her job or miss work more than once.
They also make the woman feels alone by creating an isolated environment by acting in a way that makes other women and often other mean avoid personal contact with the woman. He might call her fat or make fun of her when company is over. He might even hit her. This isolation is damaging to the human psyche because we need interpersonal communication to function well emotionally.
He might tell her that she is useless without him and will often verbally abuse her (call her names) so much that the repetition makes her believe it. You can take a strong woman and make her weak if you keep calling her names and hitting her everyday. She becomes so worn down that she believes she cannot survive without him, and some abusers might even tell her that.
If there is a child (or children) in the relationship, the woman will often endure abuse to make sure that the father does not inflict his rage on the child, so she simply acts as a buffer between the two.
Women who remain in abusive relationships often grew up in a household or succumbed to abuse as a child. This is called the cycle of violence. The woman was abused or in a family where the mother was mistreated, so she inevitably falls into a relationship with the same dynamic.
but even women with normal childhoods fall into these relationships and stay in them because the male has such a strong psychological power over her.
Because some are afraid the men will come after them and hurt them more than ever
I’ve noticed that within my family. I think its because through abuse, the abuser is making the woman his emotional hostage. The man abuses the woman to get her to do what he wants her to do. He knows the woman’s soft-spot is her heart, and the way to control her is either through treating her like a queen or like a serf.
Think of it this way, the man literary has the woman by the heart, with his hand. If she tries to pull away from him, like leave him, her heart will be torn out. It’s unfair.
because they spent their time in high school talking about boys, as if finding and getting a man was the most important thing in the world. While BOYS, on the other hand, learned the importance of standing on their own two feet.
It’s only the women who have a backbone that are worth anything. NO ONE gets into an abusive relationship by accident. There are ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS signs.
think of it this way… Chris Brown vs Rhianna.what im trying to say is that some people just got problems.
@God despises, you know nothing. women are most often killed by abusive partners that they’ve left. That’s a pretty compelling reason to stay put.
theres alot of reasons maybe she was mistreated all her life and thinks this guys the best thing thats ever happened to her…maybe she likes it…maybe shes abusive….or maybe he gave her such low self esteem that she feels she cant do any better