Fiance Broke Up After 3 years and planning a wedding, wants to meet for dinner?
My fiance and I have been dating for 3 years. I love her more than life, and asked to her marry me last Sept., she replied Yes and I was so happy. I thought we had the perfect relationship, we rarely even argued, and we were both very affectionate with each other. 2 weeks ago, OUT OF THE BLUE, she decided that " she can’t do this anymore, and she needs to find herself, she said that our relationship wasn’t a good fit, and that it is over. Needless to say, I thought I was having a bad dream and to this day I am still sick to my stomach, I have lost 15 lbs and haven’t had a good night’s sleep in 2 weeks. I love her more than anything and miss her so much, She emailed me a few times, but the emails were very cold and distant, NOT THE PERSON I KNEW, she told me that there was no other guy, but that she needs time for herself and wants to continue as the best of friends. She said that we can meet for dinner ina few weeks. I AM SO UPSET, What do I do? I miss her and want her back
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Buddy…. when you guys meet up that will be the final chapter in your story!
Sorry to say it… but just try and move on without contacting her after the dinner.
You need to decide if you can handle having just a friendship with her. This means you would have to be able to accept other men in her life as well. It could also be that she has gotten the time that she needed and is ready to start see you again, however, I think it is in your best interest to keep your guards up to make sure that she is not taking advantage of your love and support. I wish you the best of luck and keep your head up!
There had to be signs.Someone doesn’t up and leave for no reason. Maybe you just wasn’t seeing them. I am truly sorry for you loss.
That sucks! Sounds too me she was happy just being your fiance, maybe the whole commitment thing scared her. Maybe she just didn’t see herself being in the situation she was in and wants to explore all that life has to offer out there. If she loves you she will come back, give it time. However don’t let it rule your life. If it was meant to be then it will happen, maybe this will be a good time to re-visit some old friends, go get drunk, go to a concert, go to a movie(not the notebook). Best thing for you can do is get out and start living your life as well
Either give her the space and let her find herself, or start the process of getting her out of your system. Three years is a long time, However as a man if you where my friend I would be concerned for you. Give her some time and meet her for dinner and see what happens, Depending on what happens at the dinner you can make your decision………Good luck and I hope you get some good sleep
I think you should be a little less available to her.Make her think you’ve moved on,that will shake her up,dont let her dictate when you meet ,tell her when your available and thats it, take it or leave it,make her think you have alot going on and you dont have time to play these games
5 mths ago you were engaged. 4 mths ago you had a wife w/ a six week newborn baby. 3 mths ago you were married and planning to get your wife pregnant for the 1st time. 2 mths ago you had a wife with a 1 yr old baby. And now your fiance broke up with you 2 weeks ago? So which one is true?
This must be a very difficult and painful situation for you. You said you and her rarely agued. Maybe she was holding all the anger and frustration trying not to argue and letting things go, until she couldn’t do it anymore. It is important that in a relationship both parts are able to communicate entirely, freely, and comfortably. You achieve this by approaching issues calmly and in a loving way.
Also take in consideration. If she is the kind of person who will not face a problem in a relationship, but will run away instead, and be selfish; maybe you should consider whether or not that person is the right one for you. It’s understandable that you don’t want to see further than: "I love her", "There’s nobody like her", "I can’t live with out her", and so on. But the truth is: Life goes on. You’ll meet new people, you’ll experience new things, you’ll keep learning from life itself.
She has made her decision; we cannot control a person’s behavior, thoughts, or reactions. The only thing we can fully and truly control is our own behavior, thoughts and reactions. The only person who can make you happy is yourself, that’s the ultimate control. You could instead of looking at this like the "worst thing that could happen to you", see it as a beautiful experience in life. In which you learned more about relationships, and will help you on the future ones.
Also, if it makes you feel better, you are not the first one to encounter a situation like this. Many people have survived and gotten over these kinds of situations. It is now up to you if you want to take control over your own life and take the power that belongs to you. The power to make yourself happy. Don’t be "the victim" waiting for somebody to "make you happy".
"Happiness belongs to the self-sufficient" – Aristotle
Good luck mate!
What happened to the girlfriend of two years that broke up with you. You stated in other questions that her parents were getting divorced and that she was depressed. You were going to ask her to marry you in August and now you say you did it last Sept. Sounds to me like someone is is fishing for a girl to feel sorry for him. Get you story straight before you go trolling.
Latina4life…glad to see you noticed the changing stories too. Thumbs up for you!!!!!!!!!1
you sound like a really nice guy….but if you love her let her go…..If she comes back it’s meant to be…in the meantime you have a right to miss her and feel pain……but don’t let it consume you…you are alive and living in this world….get your strength back and start enjoying life….don’t let her see you going to waste…that may make the situation worse…..good luck