Why do men do this when they leave long term relationships?
Sunday, July 4th, 2010 at
Why do men do this when they leave long term relationships? Can someone please help me with an answer, because I just don’t understand why so many of them act this way.
Why do men split from long term partners and then very quickly start relationships with girls a lot younger (over 10 years) from their previous partner? Is it all to do with ego?
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yes and revenge on their ex
yes.
They have a problem with being alone. Plain and simple.
They think they have found a better thing, but this girl will want someone her own age soon enough. it is just an ego thing
because they are lookin for something to help get over you and to make them feel better about themselves generally it doesnt mean anything x
That is why he broke up.
Why do you think he broke up in the first place?
He found a better girl (better to him I mean). So, he broke up with you so he could be with her.
Did you want him to cheat on you?
@And its not alwyas younger women, leave that part out.
Tell me, if you found a better man to you, the one you would have liked much more than the man you already was with. And you desired to be with the other man what would have you done?
its just the same with cars,when it gets older…..they always want a new one or atleast a modeern one and so on and so on. if hes always having sex with u at every opportunity just know that he will soon dump u wen he gets used to the smell of your v***na and having explored your evry coner of it. dump him b4 he leaves u.
Maybe some ego – but let’s not overlook the sex appeal of a younger woman.
It’s well known and well documented that men do not communicate on the same level as women. While women have many friends they can talk to after a relationship breakup, men normally do not. Rather than face their issues or talk about them, they will often go immediately into another relationship to avoid dealing with things.
Midlife crisis. They need to feel their still attractive to someone younger and she usually doesn’t know any better. She thinks this older guy really has it going on. Till they find out that they have to pay the ex for child support and no matter what they they will still be in contact with their ex. Even if there are no children a younger girl is not going to settle for an older guy unless there is a considerable amount of money involved.
It has to do with NATURE. Men feel attracted to youth. It’s also a fact that relationships with a big age difference last longer and work better
I assume you are older or you are referring to older couples, say 30 plus. With this case, the guy just gets out of a long term, committed relationship. He’s not wanting to jump into anything serious immediately following, especially if the breakup was a hard/nasty one. In general, the younger the person, the less likely they are to jump into or even want a serious relationship. If the guy associates his ex with what has been burdening him down, he’ll go for the opposite: a younger, supposedly more fun, less committed, more carefree person.
Men aren’t the only ones who do this. Women who get out of a long marriage with a guy who’s say, 8 years older, they will typically find men no younger than a year or so older, and often a few years younger.
Ego..?
what i know is women have more ego then men..
but not only ego plays part.. love,concern,care for each other,situations and third party etc.. will always come into a picture..
Well I can’t speak to the age difference (I have no interest in dating a 14 or 15 year old), but I can speak to the quickly starting another relationship.
Lots of people think I rebound out of a relationship into another relationship. I don’t feel this is the case at all. When I’ve gotten out of a long term relationship, the reality is that it probably should’ve ended a lot earlier than it did, and I learned what I needed to learn from that relationship. I learned what I liked, and didn’t like. What I thought was acceptable and unacceptable. Traits I’m looking for and traits I want to avoid in a partner. I used these things I learned to springboard into a relationship that better fit what I was looking for. I guess I just don’t grieve over the loss of a relationship like other people do. Why dwell on the past? It’s good to remember the good points of the relationship, and you don’t want to forget the bad because that’s what you learn from.
The other point I want to make is that the most recent long term relationship I got out of I realized after I broke up with her that just being in a relationship with her was draining. I didn’t know it when I was in it, but I just didn’t have the energy. After I broke up with her, all I wanted to do was go out and hang out with my friends, and do all these things that didn’t appeal to me when I was in a relationship. It was like a light switch. I couldn’t hardly sit still I had so much energy. A huge weight had been lifted from my shoulders. Having that kind of energy surround you can be very appealing to girls. After I got out of that relationship I had girls lining up to go on dates with me. I felt like the worlds most eligable bachelor. I had the energy and was newly single, so I enjoyed the company although none of those girls turned into anything serious.
But I don’t think it really has to do with ego at all. It’s just how some guys move on.
It’s not about ego. Younger women are more physically attractive, more visually appealing. Men are visual in their sexuality, which is why porn, strip shows, and sexy lingerie sells. It’s as simple as that. Lacking baggage is another thing that can be appealing. The younger girl might not have had enough bad experiences with men yet to have developed negative attitudes towards men. She might not have children to take her attention away from the man.
Men are far more visual than women when it comes to sexual attraction. Younger women inherently and generally are sexier (more physically attractive) than older women. We are genetically programmed to mate with someone with good genes. In women, the way to display those good genes is by physical cues; ie, firm breasts, shiny hair, bright eyes, hip to waist ratio, etc.
All the people who wrote “ego” are jaded females. The last people capable of giving an educated response to this question.
Women always spin things to suit their egos and cannot handle the truth being told to them.
NO its not about EGO. Much of it has to do with genetics. Monogamy is a much harder thing for males than females. Don’t need to go into it here, but genetically men are programmed to impregnate many women. Marriage and monogamy did not exist when mankind was more primal.
Its very instinctual for men to seek women who are sexually alluring and capable of procreation.. men of ALL ages, and this is genetic. So even men in their 60′s are going to think about sleeping with a woman in her 20′s… because he CAN still in FACT procreate with her !!! The opposite simply is NOT true. A woman in her 50′s cannot reproduce.
So to say that men are doing this for ego is hogwash. Even when a man is married and loves his wife, his genetics have him predisposed to seeking out sex and procreation with younger women who are still viable. Marriage and love however keep him respectively and willingly tied to his ONE wife and children.. a call of duty, that also plays into a man’s psyche and what society has bred into him. HOWEVER..his wilder side always dreams of bedding as many beautiful young women as could be endured in a lifetime… and its impossible for men NOT TO ! This is one reason pornography has become so rampant. Men are genetically programmed toward that.
As soon as a man is free of an older woman and responsibilities to children, etc. he is automatically going to be drawn to younger viable women !!! This has almost NOTHING to do with EGO and everything to do with how his brain and body are hard wired.. for ensuring the longevity of a species . Come on ladies.. get a clue. At one time there were not 6 billion humans on the EArth..and we competed for resources and the ability to survive against harsh conditions, lack of medical facilities, and predators… for goodness sake, under those conditions, women were kept pregnant and hopefully the offspring survived long enough to procreate too.
Every man hides this from his wife, his lover, his sisters.. because women SHAME men for their sexuality !! Its sick, because women think they can “explore” themselves and sexuality for them should be regarded as “girls having fun”… whereas men who have always been 10x more sexual than woman (blame the testosterone) are shamed and humiliated and told something is wrong with them when they “explore” their sexuality..meaning when they bed as many women as they like. In truth, all MEN… every MAN wants to have nailed a lot of women before he marries, and secretly even though he loves his wife, he always thinks about being with other women and will often masturbate to this idea. He should NOT be ashamed of it, nor should women attack men for their genetics. Instead, they should confront it and accept it and laugh at some of it, because to follow your hormones would leave little time for anything else !! Still a little extra punani never hurt any man, and when he gets the chance as an older guy to get some young ones again.. good for him ! There’s nothing wrong with it. Its as natural as you having your periods and menopause …
You go boy !
There are too many people on the Earth, older men should not be reproducing, whether they can or not.
I don’t think it matters how old the person is when a break-up occurs, it’s hard seeing the person you love with someone else. Clayton W. I think you have hit a few key points. “I realized after I broke up with her that just being in a relationship with her was draining.” It’s not that being in a relationship with her was draining, you have to take ownership of your own feelings, and not lay that one on her. You like the way things are for you now, because you love your freedom, and you were not happy in a relationship because of the rules and regulations. Your not more appealing because you are happier, women and men alike always want something that they can’t have, and all you do is present a challenge. “They want to see if they can tame the wild stallion.” That’s it! Anyhow, there is a residual to this type of living, you will soon find that the older you become the less likely you will find that one special person that will live out the rest of your life with you, and find that you just may look back at that relationship and say “Should of, Would of, Could of.” Beware, when it’s time to look back and tell the story of your life “NO ONE!” will be listening. Bless you, and remember stagnation only leads to regrets!
Men are that way by nature. They don’t always go for younger. Sometimes they do nothing for long periods of time after a break-up. Some men are looking to satisfy their ego and cannot help themselves.