Girlfriend broke up with me. I dnt not want her in my life so i’ll be friends but i love her wat to do?

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1. super girl says:

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   Its normal for you to feel the way that you do about her considering you have loved her since you were 13. But now that she is older as well she is probably wanting to experience other things. She may not have loved you the way that she though she did when you were both younger. Sometimes when we get older we lose the feelings that we had for certain people and move on to other things.

   If I were you, I would do all I could to forget about it. You cannot make her love you. She is in college and is experiencing other people. She may not want to have that steady relationship because she is working on building her life. You never really know. But what I do know is that if she doesn’t have feelings for you that way anymore and you continue to engage in conversation about it she may not even be friends with you anymore. You may end up pushing her away.

   You could try and date other people. Perhaps after that you can call her and see how she is doing. Or write her a letter. A friendly letter. Not a love letter. Tell her some things you have been doing and experiencing. She may start thinking about how things used to be. Or she may just continue to be your best friend. You never know. She may change her feelings again after she realizes college isn’t what she thought. But then again college could be more than she ever expected. You don’t know. And working yourself up over it isn’t any good for you.

   Take things as they come and accept that she may never be with you in that way again. You will find someone else. Or you may end up together if you keep in touch. But you cannot have a false hope that she will change her mind. If you are willing to accept her as a friends forever that would be great. But you have to be careful that seeing her with other people isn’t going to cause you too much pain. May cause her to run away from you altogether if you react badly to her relationships. Being friends with her may not be the best thing to do unless you can control your feelings for her. If you can accept a friendship and the fact that she will have other relationships, that will make you a better person in the long run. To have respect and love enough for her to let her go and have another life is an honorable thing to do. But to be tortured with the thoughts of her with someone else while you have this burning love is unhealthy.

   Move on to other girls. You may find after you date someone else that you too didn’t really experience enough to say that you loved her. You may find that you are better suited for someone else. Going through the meeting people thing isn’t always easy. But it is fun. Try it and see if you still feel the same way about her. Who knows, perhaps after she hears that you are seeing other girls she may be jealous and come back around. Or she may be happy that you too were able to experience different things and people as well.

   Good luck. Enjoy being young and suck up all the experiences you can. You are too young to be tied down so early in life. Life will last a lot longer if you use your time wisely.
2. JustChillin says:

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   Sorry kiddo just remember the phrase this to shall pass
3. t0uch_my_body says:

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   aww i think you should take things slow with her, and tell her honestly how u feel about her so she knows where you guys stand
4. casey m says:

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   if you love her you cant be friends because all u want is a second chance and you’ll never get over her and i’ve done this before and i ruined every girl i met in the 2 years i was "friends with an ex" you have to leave her so you can move over, and u prob wont pick this as a best answer cuz this is the last thing u wanna hear but ive had the experience
5. ennovi8907 says:

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   Well if she doesn’t love you, then that’s something out of your control. Remember that love is unexpected and illogical. I think all you can do would be to talk it out and for her to tell you what you "did wrong". If she can’t or just insists that she isn’t in love with you anymore than I’d say that you have to ACCEPT that she doesn’t love you. If that’s the case, you’re going to have to hide your love away my friend sorry It’ll be hard ya know but I mean like they say if its meant to be it will happen. You have to let your bird be free and if it decides to come back one day it will.
6. Donna M says:

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   You give her too much space to play with you. Start ignoring her and move on, she’ll find interest in you because she’ll realize you actually have a life and she is not the best thing on Earth. She just knows she has you no matter what she does and honestly, she is on a power train at this point, just playing with your feelings. So man up. Go out with another girl. She’ll freak. She’ll be back before you know. She just thinks you are there for her no matter what and she can do whatever.
7. Ana says:

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   Well when one person falls out of love there is nothing you can do about that besides moving on and in your case that’s what i see. So you need to move on and find someone new. If you Fu*ked up then you Fu*ked up and what it’s done it’s done and there is no turning back. Seems like what you did to her really made her fell out of love.
8. Morgan H. says:

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   Experience will teach you the best cure for being dumped is ice cold revenge.

   YOu should key her car on both sides. let the air out of her tires. put sugar in her gas tank and then order a bunch of porno magazines and moives to be delivered to her at work or at school or at home.

   That will help to understand she shouldnt have disrespected you.
9. what u talkin' bout? says:

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   Totally agree with Casey.