What will make me want to make love to my husband again?
Monday, August 31st, 2009 at
I am completely disgusted and hate being on top with him. I absolutely hate it. I am attractive, not self conscious about myself more than average anyway, he is attractive. I love it when we make love. But he is always wanting me to be on top and I can’t stand it! Is there anything that would make me like it more, or is it hopeless?
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Reading between the lines, you seem to be implying that the reason you don’t like being on top is because it makes you feel put into the spotlight, and unattractive. Yeah, there is something therefore that would make you like it more: do it with the lights off.
Imagine that you control the relationship…that should make it better!
Well there are a million other positions.. if only being on top is disgusting to you then do it a different way.
What about being on top can you not stand? Does it hurt or is it not pleasurable for you. Can you try giving those answers to your husband.
Share your feelings with him – he may not know you don’t like being on top. After your conversation and the next time you’re in the mood, try controlling the situation by positioning yourself in a new and exciting way for both of you… an example might be laying on the bed with him behind you in the "cuddle" position, or on your knees with your head on the pillow. Both of these angles work great for us!
I personally don’t mind being on top, if it was my idea. Tell him you just don’t like that position. If the idea of him looking at you bothers you. Try it in the dark with the lights off.
Take turns. He loves seeing your boobs bounce and it turns hium on. Be grateful he is not a cheater.
Just loose your self in your husband. Think about how he makes you feel and how much you love him. Let him please you. Talk dirty or do whatever to get into it. And STOP thinking so much about how you dislike it.
That always tripped me up. I used to hate doggy style. But I just got into it and stopped thinking about how unaroused I was. And how weird this position was. Now, I just get into it, talkin dirty and all. I love that position now.
Oh yeah! Maybe he could get you all hot and close "other ways" then you could jump on his junk and finish that way. Don’t let that or anything else hender the love-making between you and your husband. Unless it hurts you? If not ride that thing. Make his toes curl!
get him another friend of yours to ride on top then you wont have too.
Just let him know it’s time to mix it up. Tell him your concerns and tell him what you want. As a husband I wish my wife would communicate more when we are in bed, God knows she can’t keep her mouth closed any other time, lol. Really, just talk to him, I’m sure he doesn’t want you to be unhappy while making love. Of course, he might be a little upset at first, he will see it as an ego thing but he’ll come around.
I think that you should discuss your concerns with him and maybe you guys can resolve things together.