Girlfriend Not Ready For a Relationship? Im broken?
Later she sent me a text. And the following days, we planned to meet again. The next time we met, we shared a bed again but this time we had sex. And the sex was really good, for both of us as far as I can tell.
Okay this was the beginning.. we slept together many more times in her apartment and in mine. But it wasn’t all sex of course. We met at a restaurant sometimes and talked.
Everything was great. She likes to go out and drink in the weekends and so do i, so we would always meet up when we went out and mostly sleep together after 
I love her so dearly.
I’m not portraying our relationship in the best way. Please keep that in mind.
When we we’re alone together we could talk about anything… ;P A couple of times we had sex without a condom even though I brought one with me. Which was stupid, I know
But we would both just joke about it. And she didn’t worry that much about getting pregnant she said. I of course expressed my concerns a little bit. We ended up discussing silly baby names and laughing about it =)
We are both just over 20.
I basically stole her from her ex-bf who she had been with for several years, he was manipulative and refused to let her go. He showed up when we would go out and they would go outside and discuss…
Eventually he gave up. And she told me how happy she was to be rid off him.
All her friends was very happy I had “saved” her from him.
She told me they had been on and off before. Also told me that she couldn’t believe she was together with that unstable guy.
After about 2-3 weeks, she traveled to another country for a week with a member of her family. I was fine with this, though I told her I missed her, and we both texted each other a lot while she was gone.
Then after around 2 more weeks, she traveled again with her friend to another country for a week. Before she went she told me how much she didn’t want to leave me. And how much she didn’t want to go. But she promised her friend.
Now comes the crushing part.
She texted me many times the whole week she was gone. How she missed me, and how she wanted to be with me. How she wanted to sleep with me. How boring it was there.
When she got home, she texted me to let me know she was back.
Now the confusion starts. The next couple of days she was back, she tells me she is sick with flu. And we text a little with bit with each other, but the next days I’m always the initiator. I always texted first, else she wouldn’t send me anything.
I tried to invite her over, but she was busy helping a girlfriend. Then after 2 weeks of not seeing each other. I ask her, “is everything okay with us?”. She says “I don’t know, I think too much”.
Then I say “Please tell me now if you don’t want to continue with me”.
She says “I don’t know, I don’t think I’m ready for a relationship right now. I need to get over my ex, I’ve been with him for so long I need some time alone”.
I said “ok”. But at night it gets to hard and I text her, telling her how I feel and how much I like her. And I don’t want to loose her. She texts me back saying “I like you very much, I don’t want you to think anything else. But I need to be alone”.
I tell her” I understand and that I’m there for you if you want to talk.”
She says “thank you 
I like you so much”.
The next day in despair I loose it and send her 2 more texts, telling her I need to speak to her and if she has any feelings. She has to come and talk to me in person.
I get no reply on any of my texts. She removes me from Facebook and probably blocked me on msn. I sent her a last text where I said I was sorry for texting her and that I like her a lot. And that I understand she needs to be alone.
No reply of course.
I understand she needs time. But the no reply completely blocking me out is scaring me. I don’t understand. We haven’t been together for 2 weeks, I haven’t seen her since she left. I mean if everything was fine before, how can it not be now when we haven’t even been together.
I love her dearly and can’t live without her. Seriously, I can’t. I’m so unstable right now it’s unbelievable..
I haven’t terrorized her. I haven’t called her. Only texted and not a lot. Only maybe 2 days after she said she needed to be alone. And I’m stopping now. (I only texted on cellphone, not Facebook or MSN)
Is she coming back?
What is going through her mind?
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I’d bet dollars to donuts that she went back to her ex-boyfriend. Everything you say about her behavior indicates it.
Truly, though, the girl did you a favor by stopping contact, making it quite clear that she’s not relationship material for you right now, whatever the reason. Would you have preferred that she strung you along and continued her pattern of behavior with her heart not really into it and thinking about someone else the whole time?
I know broken hearts are hard to live with, but the best thing you can do right now is to take the relationship for what it is, or rather was, as time you enjoyed together and find someone else to date who is a lot more willing to give you what you need right now.
2 words homeboy.. MOVE ON
She probably is having her own problem to deal with. It could be family problem and other stuff but then if she ignores you that much then you should just move on and find someone better than that. you deserve better.
She’s probably getting back together with her ex. That’s why she blocked and ignored you, so you won’t be angry with her. I think you need to relax and find someone else–I mean, it’s not like you were dating her for months. Not even 2 weeks. She probably wasn’t that serious and seems to me she just wanted sex.
She probably thinks of you differently. And maybe she knows that you’ve fallen inlove but she hasn’t. You should move on, and maybe she’ll come back. But just move on for now so you won’t hurt as much.
um she might be pregnant
I dont think she will come back. You need her too much it probably scares her. you will have to get your own security and self esteem ,self reliance and start being happy with yourself before you will have a good relationship. Dont be needy, you have to have something to offer them. And believe in yourself, be strong . sometimes its good to be emotional but not too much.You will grow and develop from this experience. Accept what she says and she will respect you more, dont keep pushing her to be with you or she may end up not talking to you at all. Take it easy and try to relax.do other stuff to occupy your time with your mates. good things will happen soon enough ,be patient.By the way its almost impossible for her to go straight from one BF to another and stay.you probably are a decent bloke and make someone happy one day,hope it helps but you arent alone in this type of thing. it does hurt a bit ,but youll be ok,your only a young fella
Well I say, stay round don’t tell her you love her because then you are just throwing yourself for her to take as much time as she wants before she gets with you.. If you show you are looking a little bit interested she will pick up on it and question herself that she may actually be ready…