How can I get my ex husband to give up parental rights if he doesn’t want to?
I have been divorced for the past 5 years and have two children with my ex that are now 9 and 6. The girls have a half brother with their father who is almost 2. They like seeing their brother, but hate going to their dad’s house. Their father was sent to prison after our divorce due to drugs. As far as I know, he is clean now, but not sure. He has not paid child support for over 90% of the time that we have been divorced and all the court keeps telling him is to get a job. There is never anything else the court does. I can’t get his taxes because he isn’t working. I have a great boyfriend who loves the girls very much, but we are not married. Therefore he can not adopt the children. We are going to be moving in with my boyfriend within the next 2-3 months in a town about 40-50 minutes from their father. What can I do to make life easier and happier for all of us involved in this situation? My oldest daughter has asked since the divorce (she was 4) to change her last name.
I do have full custody of both of my girls with the right to claim both of them on my tax return.
I was also informed that in order for my daughter to change her last name, he has to consent. I have spoke to many attorney, plus I work for a few. I know it is a very touchy subject – parental rights and name changing
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I’m sorry that you are in such a difficult situation. However, you may be able to improve it. First you will need to contact the State or local BAR association and ask them to recommend a good lawyer that will either work for free (pro bono) or at reduced rate. Explore you options with your lawyer including cutting your ex completely out of your lives. Once done, the lawyer probably will be able figure how your boyfriend can share custody or adopt your girls. Good luck.
Talk to the court. If he is not a good father they will give you full custody. They should have set a time line for your ex to get his life right. And if they should have busted him for not paying child support.
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You would have to go back to the courts and ask for soul custody, but you have to prove to them why your x is not a suitable parent to have joint custody. But what you have said, he doesn’t sound like the most stable person to be raising 2 kids. If your oldest daughter wants to change her last name, go to the court house and fill out the forms in order for her to change it. There is a cost involved, but its not a hard process. Good luck
hire the sopranos!
Take him to court for child support! if it doesn’t work, keep taking him back! if he doesn’t pay, don’t let him see them! arrange a way with the child’s mother so they Can still see their little brother!
press charges in civil court about him owing you money. if you take it to child enforcement they will probably laugh at you because they know he’s getting paid ‘under the table’ for whatever job he’s doing (you can also take pics of him at work to prove he does). usually civil court doesn’t care why money is owed.
use the system to your advantage – learn to screw it like it screws you.
You can’t force a father to voluntarily give up his parental rights. A court can terminate his rights but they normally do that in cases of abuse. Inform your daughter she can change her name once she is emancipated.
It all depends on where you are. Every state has different laws about such things. Most have certain situations in which the court can involuntarily terminate a parent’s rights, particularly in cases of child abuse, etc., but what those cases would be depends entirely on the state.
You’d have to convince a court that’s it’s in the childs best interest. Generally speaking that’s just about impossible to do. The child’s wishes don’t caring a lot of "weight" until generally in their teens. One of the reasons for that is because one parent can influence the kids thoughts a lot during the younger years.