My girlfriend and I are on a break and things continue to get complicated. What to do?
I am 18 and so is my girlfriend. I’ll be a freshman this year at a college in town and she is a senior in high school. We have been dating for almost 3 years and towards the end of the summer our intense fights were starting to get the best of us so she decides maybe we should take a break. I didn’t see the good in this choice but there wasn’t anything I could really do about it. The reason for her needing space is because our relationship has been stressful lately and she is always working or doing things with school and just didn’t need our stress. I know people think there is another guy or something but I can assure you there isn’t. She says she loves me very much and knows we will get back together and it will be ok. We have been apart for a little over a month now and within the past couple weeks we have started talking a lot again. We have even hung out a couple times just as friends, and its been great because I feel like we have been getting to know each other all over again. Well, a couple days ago we hung out and I was about ready to leave and she hugs me and then she kisses me. Of course I don’t really stop it because its not what I truly want. I end up staying for another hour in her room. We kiss heavily and all those kinds of things, and she starts crying and tells me how much she misses me and needs me and loves me. It felt as though we were dating and everything was just perfect. But she still says..we cant get back together yet, I love you so much but we cant..Im sorry for making things even harder. You know I understand her reasons for being alone and I can accept that, but how things have gone lately I feel as though she is just being selfish now. Its not fair to me to be on a roller coaster with my feelings and just having to wait around. Im not really implying the she is out having the time of her life and im crying at home, its not like that at all. I just dint get how we love each other but cant date yet? I truly believe her and everything, but I have been in this situation before and I fear the same thing will happen to me again. Based off what I have said what do you feel is going on?
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Yeah, I understand that, and it’s very supportive of you to do what she wants and such, even though it’s not what you want at all. Just talk to her, tell her how much it hurts you and such and see if there’s anything you can do at all to change her mind a bit faster or something.
I think that she’s just probably confused right now, or scared herself-idk about what, but something. That’s just my own opinion though, you should really talk to her about this and get some more answers
Good luck to the two of you and hope this answer helps
NO NO NO NO NO NO NO please dear god trust me. I made this mistake before with a girl i love very very much. You have to give her space. dont txt. dont call. dont email. listen, you trust her and she trusts you- so no worries. Think of this as a vacation. Don’t let your nerves or your imagination get the best of you. ride this out and wait for her. if you dont, and you even txt her once and drag it out, you can lose her for good. I mean to the point where she thinks your clinically insane and won’t look at you let alone call. Please, a perfect match is hard to come by. don’t let it go by being a selfish doofus (in the nicest way)
You should leave her alone and let her solve any problems she has by herself. You intruding on her space will just make it harder for her to decide what she wants and in the end just make the break longer. Sometimes serious relationships are hard on people and they have conflicting emotions. I think she just wants to remove herself from the relationship so she can see what she wants, what the problem is and how u both can solve it. So for the time being leave her be as much as possible.
If you do talk to her try to be as straight forward, open and kind as possible. then im sure ull get her
good luck man!