How do I fall in love with my husband again, and get him more involved?
I feel like he doesn’t need the closeness that I want. I feel like him providing for our family and sex are the only ways he shows me love. I want a partner, trust, communication, and to enjoy each other again! He seems happy (except for when I complain), but I’m not happy at all. He’s hurt me and hidden things from me, but hasn’t cheated. Sometimes I feel like I don’t know him, or that he wants to appear like he’s what I need. Whenever I’m not around (he travels once in a great while for work) he just sits around and plays video games, drinks (only when I’m not around) and watches trashy stupid movies (and sometimes porn).
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All you gotta due is seduce him! Guys want to be wanted. Don’t tell him you want to have sex, show him and act it out.
Greet him completely naked except for a pair of CFM pumps when he comes home.
Go out to dinner with him wearing a sexy dress and high heels. Let him find out, you forgot your panties.
One night, after a steamy bath, slip into bed wearing a sheer nightie, and begin by giving him a bj.
All the time, be sure to wear his favorite perfume. No man would rather watch crappy TV than having a sexy woman crawling all over him!
Watch some porn together! Then act out the scene you both like!
Talk…Talk…Talk!!!
If talking doesn’t work, write him a letter as long as a book about the way you are feeling! Make him read it!
Maybe you should get a new look about yourself. Your a good looking woman to him, but sometimes routine becomes boring and he get loss of interest in you overall.
So now it’s time to cut your hair, makeover time, new dress and a new you look to let your hubby know what he is missing out on. Re-invent yourself.
You have to find a way to get through to him. Just sit him down and say "I am really worried about how we’ve grown apart and I think we should talk about it". Get him to open up. Maybe he is feeling the same way. Maybe you need to go away together for a weekend and get that spark back. Ask him to go to marriage counseling if all else fails. But don’t give up. If he sees you are really worried about things maybe he will find ways to reassure you.
i would agree.
you need to talk to him
and tell him how you feel.
or your gonna always be like that.
you guys need some bonding time to rekindle your marriage. Sometimes people get so caught up in everyday life they forget what really makes them happy. Go out and get a cute makeover and take a small vacation. Even for one night. Like dinner and a movie or a go watch a concert that he would like then end the night in a hot tub at nice hotel. Don’t give him all the details, hold the eliment of suprise. Do it as a surprise for him just make sure he has his night and next day open so there won’t be any interruptions from work or anything. Good Luck!
men do communicate with us. in fact, sex is a huge communication for them. they just communicate completely different. try men are from mars, women are from venus
Go to a major bookstore and buy the book
"Getting the Love you want" a guide for couples
By Harville Hendricks
Read the first three sections. DO not do the last part.
When you understand where you are and how you got there.
You can then help yourself to get what you need.
Note: dont force this book on your partner.
they will come around in time, once you change your behavior