I had an affair. How do I save my marriage?
I have been married for just over 9 years. No kids. My wife recently found out about my four month affair with another married woman. It was mainly texts and about 6 face to face encounters. We only had sex once. But that was once too many, I admit. I love my wife with all my heart and don’t even think of the woman who I had the affair with. My wife says she wants a divorce and is tired of my accusations and criticizing her of having relationships with her guy friends. She says she’s been unhappy the last 2 years. Now this. I have apologized to her, the one I had the affair with, and the the husband of the one I had the affair with. I believe I have done the first step in realizing that I want to save my marriage. Second I have apologized and continuously do on somewhat of a continuous basis as our conversations have been just text since I’m away from home for work, overseas, for another 2 weeks. She says I would do it again if we stayed together but I assured her, that I would not. She has told me it’s over and to quit communication w/ her and to leave her alone. Not sure if she’s talked to an attorney yet or not.I love her with all my heart and don’t know what else to do or say. I don’t want to buy her anything fancy as she’ll think I’m trying to buy her back. I’ve come to a fork in the road and don’t know what direction to go to from here. I don’t know if I should give her time to be alone the next 2 weeks or so, or continue communication via texts but it has ended in "leave me alone" after every short conversation in the last week. Thanks for your time and advice.
Filed under: How To Save A Marriage
Like this post? Subscribe to my RSS feed and get loads more!