How can I fall back in love with my husband??
I want to leave because I am unhappy and met another man that I love very much, but I want to fall back in love with my husband. I don’t want to want to leave him. How can I fall in love again, when everytime I think about being with him still makes me shudder. I want to fall back in love any thing will help
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sweety that’s a tough one. I know. When you really, really want to love someone but you can’t make that connection anymore, there’s something about them that is making you really, really ANGRY!!!!!! You don’t even realize it I’m sure but some day you’re going to be talking about something fairly minor, and he’ll say something vaguely inconsiderate and you will EXPLODE!!!!!!
You may feel like you’re in control of your emotions, but you’ll realize you’re not. Anger, depression and insanity are all the same ball of wax, and they’re all connected with RESPECT. You may need to leave for awhile. That’s not uncommon. A few months away can sometimes make a HUGE difference. I don’t know about your life but I do know about mine. When my health was being affected, I left. I stayed gone about 3 months, and after a lot of screaming and yelling and crying from a couple thousand miles away, one day I was treated with respect. That made all the difference……
Is the other man you met a shrink? If so then go with him.
Go to the movie with your husband, and watch an excellent film. Don´t say nothing about the problem, just wait That´s all. If something special will come again, you will know.
if you love the other man, i doubt you will be able to fall back in love with your husband. try to remember what made you love him in the first place.
There is no science to love I’m afraid-or easy answer especially not on here. But just take it slow-maybe go on a couple dates with him. How did you fall in love in the first place?
Sometimes things just aren’t meant to be-and that’s just the way it is-you need to think about how you’re going to feel when you’re both over 60-is this who you want to be with?
By falling forward. Date again. Rekindle that old fire. Get out of the rut.
get out of thee rut you are in. and try to act like the girl he married for startwers . you cant have both . my opion?
you cant, you have no control over your heart, it sux but its true. you can try and do things with him to make the "spark" come back, but if it wasnt ment to be, then your kinda stuck
well you have to resolve the reason that you are unhappy first off, and right along the same time, get rid of the other dude. being with him while you are trying to reconnect with your husband is not going to help the situation at all. if you really want to stay with him, you just have to commit yourself to it. if there was love in the first place, you shouldnt have much trouble in getting it back
Every relationship has its emotional ups and downs, so please don’t think that leaving your husband for this other man is going to be some sort of panacea for you–eventually, you would have problems with this man as well. If you are sincere about falling in love with your husband again, then cut off all communication with this other man-change phone numbers, routines, whatever. Write a list of everything that bothers you about your husband–then burn it. Then write up a list of things that made you fall in love with him in the first place, and read it everyday. Look for the good in him now, and when you see it, praise him for it, and add it to your list.
One aspect of love is committment–which is sorely lacking in our society. Statistically, second marriages have a higher failure rate than first marriages– (60-70% vs. 50%) maybe because people run from their problems instead of handling them, and find themselves in the same situation all over again. Please don’t be a statistic.
Leave the other man alone and focus on your husband. Get away somewhere different and rediscover the friendship and share your hopes and dreams. Make the intimacy exciting and communicate your needs and what you want out of the relationship. Maybe get into some marriage counseling and work on the things to strengthen the relationship to find the compassion and love that may still be there but has become stale and boring. You won’t find what you are looking for in someone else especially since you desire to fall back in love with your husband again. Eventually things level out in every relationship especially when the real world enters into your everyday life. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side once you get there because an affair is always on it’s best behavior because it’s your own little world when only two people are in it.You don’t have the everyday stress of dealing with the real quirks a person will display on an everyday basis.You can’t change the way you feel until you think about it differently and see things for the way they really are. This other man has probably been an escape from something you want to avoid and get away from and right now he looks like the white knight in shinning armor.
Try as you might, there are no easy answers. You cannot force yourself to love someone. Only time will tell. In the first place, why are you unhappy with him. Is it because of the other man? Forget the other man and concentrate on your husband. Figure out what makes you unhappy with him and talk it out. Good luck, yours in not an enviable position.
You aint. I thought thad I could fall back in love with my ex, cant do it.
you need to fall in love with you first,get rid of the other distraction and work on what you have now,you still love your man yet the thought of him touching you makes you scream,no,
get some help,work on your marriage first,if it does not work out,then and only then walk away,
other than that it will take some time,work from both of you and prayer,good luck to you