I really want my ex back, how do I get him?
Friday, October 16th, 2009 at
He says that he loves me but we split up last week. I got really angry at him because he slept round this girls house after he missed his last bus home, even though shes tried to kiss him before (when we were going out). It will be a year in November and I really want him back, we are both 17 and lost our virginity to eachother and everything.
How do I get him back? The reason we split is because he said I didn’t trust him. Its not that, its because I don’t trust her.
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Hey Elle,
When you decide you want to get back with your ex, you have to be ready to face not only what has gone wrong with the relationship, but also your part in the break down of the relationship. If you made mistakes then don’t beat yourself up for that. We all make them, it’s what you do after the mistake that’s influential.
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1. So sit down alone and take some time to go through what happened and what were the issues that led up to what happened. Don’t concern yourself too much with what you see as your ex’s mistakes, leave that for the future. Only concern yourself right now with what you can influence.
2. Whichever mistakes you find in your past behavior, can they be forgiven? Don’t be too eager to get down on yourself and believe that your mistakes are basically unforgivable . You would be astonished at the situations that couples find themselves in and that they later recover from. So don’t think that your mistakes are beyond forgiveness. There is always hope!
3. Try and pin point what was happening in your life at the time that led you to make the mistakes, particularly if it was completely out of character for you. Remember what I said about facing hard truths, if you want to get back with an ex, then you should do this.
4. You might find out that you were under certain stresses and strains. Perhaps you were under threat at your job? Or you weren’t physically feeling yourself? Or perhaps there were other family matters . Whatever you find when you look back at what happened, you will eventually need to sit down with your ex and explain in detail precisely what you have found.
5. If your mistakes arose from you just being thoughtless or selfish, then this is something about you and your character that can quite easily be fixed. It will take ongoing monitoring but if you are sincerely committed to getting back with your ex, then it is going to be worthwhile.
6. When you have come to the point where you have begun to gain perspective about your mistakes, then call your ex and arrange a meeting. It is usually better to arrange a face to face meeting somewhere public and neutral since then there is less chance of either of you becoming emotional.
7. So, make sure that you stay calm and concentrated on what you want to say. Apologize and ask for forgiveness and then listen carefully to what your ex has to say.
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I would say the best thing you could do is contact him, and say that you believe you overreacted. Honestly you really did. Were you expecting him to just sleep at the bus stop? Walk home? or go to his friend’s house that happened to be nearby?
Now, coming down to specifics, she has tried to kiss him yes, but did he kiss her or did he resist? When he spent the night with her, did he sleep in bed with her? and if he did, did they fool around? Or did he sleep on the couch?
I would say you should consider those details. If he never tried to kiss her, didn’t sleep in bed with her and didn’t fool around, then he has done nothing wrong. Furthermore, if she has a small place, and the only furniture in the place are some chairs and a bed, then maybe sleeping in bed with her could be excusable.
One thing to consider is that now that you have broken up with him on the accusation that he was cheating on you with her, he may have gone and hooked up with her. Basically, he has already been convicted of the crime, why not just go for it.
So you may have hurt your chances of getting back with him through your own insecurities. As far as I can tell, she was just being a good friend, as long as the above conditions were met.
Drop him a line and tell him you made a mistake, and that you were wrong to accuse him of cheating. Then just go from there.
Totally what ‘Mike A’ said.!! ^^^