My Husband Of 10 Years Left Me And Filed For Divorce
My husband of 10 yrs left me and filed for divorce. I am devastated and don’t want to divorce.
I love him…
My husband and I have had our ups and downs for the past 10 years like most marriages. We had a fight 4 weeks ago and it escalated to him moving out and filing for divorce within 3 weeks.
He says I have emotionally abused him (silent treatment, yelling, talking to like a kid, etc…) and he doesn’t want our relationship anymore.
I have since stopped calling and texting as much as I was in the beginning, which only made things worse. I’m trying hard to give him space and time. I have accepted responsibility for my mistakes and am working with a therapist to change my behavior.
His chief complaints are I don’t speak to him respectfully, always question him and control things, smother him, won’t accept his decision to divorce.
I am truly sorry for the way I have treated him and have expressed that to him, but he said he doesn’t believe me because I promised to change when he left me in January. I did make some changes, but they were not to his standard and he didn’t mention anything until our fight 4 weeks ago.
I am desperate to save my marriage and I don’t know what to do. I have been reading books, taking anti-depressants and courses on relationship rebuilding, but nothing seems to matter at this point.
He says he is 75% gone and has recently agreed to speak with a counselor with me to find it if he is making the right decision. This is the hardest thing I’ve had to go through in life and the pain is almost unbearable.
I can’t function. I cry from the time I wake up till the time I go to bed. I have missed work and am planning to take FMLA to protect my job. I’m severely depressed and feel my life has no meaning without my husband.
If he leaves he takes everything away from me. I only associate with his family, I don’t have many friends, everything I have done in the past 10 years has revolved around my husband and our marriage.
I feel like I am loosing my identity. I want to show my husband that our marriage is worth saving and that it can be saved, but it is hard when he keeps moving further away and refusing to deal with our problems.
He has walked out and it is difficult to even get him to talk to me. I don’t know what to do. Divorce is not an option for me.
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I just can’t handle negativity right now.
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Filed under: How To Save A Marriage
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