What Can I Say To Him To Turn Him On?

Are you able to recall what it felt like when you first fell in love with each other, especially how easily you were able to turn him on? According to Relationship expert James Bauer this tremendous state of emotions does necessarily not have to stop.

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How To Become The Light of His Life

Here’s what it feels like to a man when he first falls in love with a woman.  He feels happy.  His happiness flows naturally from expectations of something wonderful in his future.  He feels more connected with the world, even when she’s not around.

His mind is compartmentalized, so he sometimes gets so engrossed in his work that he is literally surprised by the joyful emotions that erupt for a few seconds each time something reminds him of you during the course of his work day.

Tips To Turn My Husband OnIf he continues down this road, the euphoria of love makes him start to adore everything about you.

The edges of your lips, your neckline, the tone of your voice, everything about you starts to seem perfect and magical.  He begins to fantasize about kissing you before his boss snaps him out of it in the middle of a meeting.

This all sounds pretty close to what you would expect so far, right?  Well, what happens next may seem a little odd.

All those positive feelings build into a desire to become your lover.  What that means to a man is very different than what it means to a woman.

In his quest to become your lover, a man’s feelings will shift toward a desire to impress you.  That sounds nice, right?  Well, it can be nice, or not, depending on how you respond to him.

You see, men have a soft spot underneath the hard emotional exterior.  We may act tough, stubborn, angry, or macho on the outside, but all that is really serving a softer emotional need.  Men cannot thrive in a deep passionate type of relationship unless they feel they have a woman’s admiration and respect.

If your man thinks you like him, but he feels you do not really admire him, the “in love” feelings will quickly fade and often extinguish completely like the wick of a candle that has been snuffed out.

If you snuff out the fire from the wick of a candle, it’s out.   You can warm up to him all you want, but he will feel cold and only respond by blowing little wisps of smoke into your face from the extinguished flame.  Many women have felt this.  Some women have been through it more than once in a marriage.

Men desire admiration in a way that women would find hard to believe.  Testosterone is, as you know, the male sex hormone.  When it is active, he feels manly and alive.  He feels happy.

Did you know a man’s testosterone is affected by the way people treat him? It’s true.  If you put a man in a position where he is treated like the low man on the totem pole, his testosterone will drop.

After a group of men are thrown together, there is a sorting-out period when a “pecking order” is established.  No one talks about it.  It just happens.  If you watched a video tape of interactions among men after about five days, you would be able to tell who was more of the alpha-male at the top end, and who the people were lower on the pecking order.

Words That Turn Him OnIf you measured each person’s testosterone before and after grouping them together, those at the bottom would experience a drop in testosterone while those toward the top would experience an increase.

Why does this matter?  Because men will lose interest in anyone that accidentally tromps on their ego.  And there are all kinds of ways this happens without you meaning to do it!

The feeling can come from something as simple as the tone of voice you use when offering a compliment!

Does your man dream about you in his future?  Are you the light of your man’s life?   If not, the Respect Principle may have something to do with it.

Check out the free presentation I put together to explain this vital relationship principle.

Here’s How To Turn Him On…

It could make all the difference in the relationship you share with your man.

Wishing you the best in love and life,

James Bauer

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It sounds childish and “teenagerish”. But I don’t know, I want a song I can relate to you know. We were together for a year and half and he had another girlfriend. So a song about missing your ex boyfriend.

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No Contact in a mutual break-up?

My ex and I were together for 2 yrs & lived together. I instigated the break-up but took 2 months to actually do it, by which time my ex wanted to break too so it turned out to be mutual.

She seemed way cooler than me about it and wanted to be friends, I did too but soon realized I wanted her back. We kept in touch for 4 months, with an equal balance of contacting each other. I asked for her back twice though, she said we need time apart & see what happens, she couldn’t make any promises & said I should move on. I started to find the friendship painful so I asked for 1 month NC which she was cool about. Once NC started I deleted her from facebook.

I called her after 6 weeks NC and she was angry about facebook, I apologized for not warning her beforehand but at the end of the conversation she told me (viciously) to never send her another friend request as she’ll ignore it. I was surprised because it was the 1st time she’d lost her cool since the break up. I e-mailed her the day after to say her comment was unnecessary and if she meant f*** you then fair enough I’ll leave her alone, I also wrote that its hard being friends with her as she puts up such a front (& makes frequent sarcastic digs at me) that I don’t recognize her anymore. That was 3 weeks ago and she never replied.

It’s been 7 months since we broke up now. Sounds like she feels like the injured party….I’ve written a letter apologizing for how I’ve behaved since the break-up (i.e. being friends just to try and win her back), and to say I hope we’ll be friends some day, and to wish her happiness whatever path her future takes. I feel bad because everything was on good terms and we are both nice people, but our last conversation & my e-mail response was quite nasty and I feel like clearing the air.

Not sure whether to send it or not though, trouble is I’m still healing & not ready to be friends. I’ll see her in 5 months at a mutual friends event. Will I do more damage by sending it, or by leaving her alone (I’ve no idea whether she hates me or not now)?


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I have been trying to win my ex back and with that said with my other question i asked before this post to see if she is over you or still wants to get together.
When would you guys stop trying to win her back and just move on?
We have not been together scince august and im still trying.
ehh.. sorry sounds so confusing.
Pretty much what im tyring to say is how long would you try to win her back before you give up
oh and noted we have been together for a year and a half…

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We broke up after we went to different colleges, but now it’s the summer and I really want him back.

Sounds desperate, but I know there has to be something, and the only reason we broke up is distance. Distance isn’t a problem anymore. So how do I make him know I’m interested without being clingy or desperate?

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